How can I tell if someone is truly in love with me?
Love is an extremely powerful emotion that constantly demands to be expressed in many ways which are mostly unconscious.
- The way they look at you
A lot can be said in the eyes. When your partner looks at you, do their eyes look calm and kind and sweet? Maybe a little sparkly? Do you ever catch them looking at you when you’re doing something else? These are all quiet ways of communicating love.
- The kinds of things they plan to do
There’s nothing wrong with curling up for some movie-watching action, but it’s also worth paying some mind to what kinds of activities your partner plans for the two of you. If they pick special events that you would particularly enjoy, that means they’re listening — and they want to make you happy. Which brings me to …
- They want to make you happy
If your partner sometimes puts aside their preferences to yield to what you want or need, this is important. Not every time. Not always. We all need to do this kind of thing for each other. But if your partner says, “I want to do whatever you want,” and means it, they are performing a small act of kindness — and love. It’s hard sometimes to put one’s desires aside and do what your partner wants. But it’s so worth it.
- They pamper you
We’re all tired at the end of the night. If your partner cozies up and rubs your feet or your back, they are displaying a little act of love. Same goes for if they run you a bath, or read to you, or make you a midnight snack or cup of tea.
- They show emotion
It’s hard to cry in front of someone else. But if they feel comfortable in doing so in front of you, you may be well on your way to love town.
- They trust you
And you trust them. Trust is vital. For any real, lasting partnership to be forged, trust has to be utmost in the equation. If you travel and don’t worry about what they’re up to in your absence, and the same is true for them, this is a good sign.
- They are understanding
Compassion goes a long way. If your partner is gentle with you, that’s so valuable. If you have to cancel a date because your friend needs you, or if you just want to spend your Saturday morning sleeping after an exhausting week, and that’s met with understanding or even enthusiasm, you’re with the right person.
- They care about you
A combination of actions and words express the way someone feels about us, and it’s worth noticing when a person is particularly warm or compassionate or lovely. If your partner has told you they love you, enjoy. If not, don’t get too hung up on those words. If your partner exhibits many or most of these characteristics, they care deeply for you. And it’s very possible that they love you. Let it unfold.