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Society pressures people to be a certain type, a certain style. Society pressures people to buy certain things. Society wants to be portrayed as the most successful in the world. And the energy of society is the most felt energy pressure the body can feel, in America. For a country that advertises diversity, the pressures to be good, better, or best, to be the best in the world, to do things and say things that make you accepted and sure not to stand out are so great that people lose sight of what is means to live in the first place. Being authentic is what an honest society needs. The authentic person is true to their heart and will be energized by whatever ways they are drawn to serve society, not by what makes them look the most successful, nor just whatever it takes to survive. It takes courage to stand up to adversity and not let society tell you what success looks like, but to understand what success means to self. Once you find your purpose, you will be compelled to live it and honestly portray your feelings. People will begin to see your happiness radiating through your authenticity. It will draw them to do the same, instead of feeling crazy by being themselves.
Many are afraid of being judged be believing in a religion. This comes from increasing pressure from the gov’t that science, what can be proven in a lab, should rule all, and this is why America is the greatest in the world. This gov’t is ever increasing in size because most believe if you can’t defeat them, join them. When they feel so overcome by these pressures of society that they have pushed away all the little things that make them unique, they are drawn to fight for their life back, or join those whom appear most successful. The American government wants those who do not stand up and be themselves, but those who will just do as they’re told and look happy doing it. They join the gov’t in hopes of feeling accepted as most successful in the eyes of society. Unfortunately, they usually just gather serious disappointment and resentment. Kind of defines the term of “going postal.
Rarely anymore do people do things for themselves just to be themselves or because it makes them feel better, but to please the fakeness society.
Our society has largely degraded into communications with either falsehoods or lies and billions have been spent to have us believe that is an OK, normal and reasonable way to live; while it isn’t even a reasonable way to just barely survive in Fear where those with power and vast riches want us to stay!!
In a society where falsehoods and lies re the norm, why would we step up and be forthright?
There is a reason, actually, because we are a form of life which the universe selected, against great odds, to come into being and we are a species which was then selected to be Special and question both why we are her and who we really are!
Actually, we humans are eternal, spiritual beings who will be given a string of bodies made of stardust so we can grow enough and become such Great examples of living Love that others will choose to become just like us.
Beyond that, we are Destined to finally become Living Live, Love Personified or Love Incarnate (choose your favorite name).
Our stardust bodies are both efficient and effective in bringing us up against situations where we finally recognize that we have important issues to identify, learn and put into practice; ones who have not yet learned well enough – so they keep coming back at us.
Stand up an be counted!
The time for hiding our Light has long past and we are choosing heads of state who are ridiculous in so many ways! Choose to become such a Great example of living Love that others have to choose to become just like you! Start a chain of growth.
We all want to liked and accepted and so we hide our true feelings, agree when we actually don’t, and modify our appearance to look more attractive.
It is not tll we believe people actually like us for who we are that we allow ourselves to expose our true selves. But reaching that point and getting through it may be our most difficult accomplishment in life and we may still find ourselves on the outside once we’ve done it.
One of our biggest mistakes is not letting our spouses discover who we really are before we commit to marriage and children. Too often believing we can change to be who they think we are.
I’ve come to realize that being who I really am may alienate some I considered friends or even loved ones, but it’s worth the freedom that comes from divesting ourselves of the incredible burden of maintaining a facade.
It may actually turn out that friends and family will still love you and may now respect you more.
Sometimes people are not nice people, and they hide that in order to gain something. It’s kind of like catfishing, if only emotionally. Narcissists can be this way.
People try to fit in. When they don’t have a true sense of self, they meld with whomever they are with. They dress like their friends dress. They eat what their friends eat. They join activities that their friends enjoy. Either they haven’t taken the time to explore themselves, or they stuff their real selves down inside in order to be accepted.
Many people hold on to a deep sense of shame or pain. They feel that their true selves are too much for people, or they are ashamed of their true selves, so they wear a mask. Maybe they don’t want to bother other people with their problems. Maybe they are afraid of rejection. Maybe they just don’t feel that they are good enough to truly be known.
They are afraid of weakness. They wear a mask to cover up that weakness and live in fear of anyone finding it out. The narcissists do this as well. That is why they always tout that they are “the best” and “the greatest” and attack anyone who says anything negative about them.
They feel they have a role to play, and they think that sharing their true self would hinder that role. Sometimes this can be healthy, such as in a job setting (with varying degrees). And sometimes this is very harmful to the self. As a pastor, I often put my own needs aside to help others. But sometimes I find it hard to then deal with my own needs because I’ve been putting them aside for so long.
All of us, to an extent, hide who we are, at least in part. We show only a small amount of our true selves when making first impressions. We act one way at work and another at home. We act one way with family and another way with strangers. Sometimes it is healthy; sometimes it is not. I knew a teacher who was NOT a morning person, but for 40 years had to get up early in the morning to go to work. I know a pastor who is NOT formal, but puts on a dress for church each week. I know counselors who lean one way politically but counsel people who lean another way politically, and their job is to understand, not to change a person’s opinions.
So those are just a few examples of why we hide our true selves. Ultimately, we all could do more self-exploration to truly discover who we are and who we were created to be.
5. Predators. Parasites. People out there that attach themselves to you and drain the life force from you day by day until you are just a shell of who you once were. They take advantage of your kindness and mock you for being caring and compassionate. They eat away at your soul and every fiber of your being until you are void of any semblance whatsoever of who you were meant to be. Don’t reveal yourself to anyone until you know exactly what you are dealing with, you could be entertaining your destruction.
Speaking to this regarding NPDs…b/c 1. I don’t believe they even know who their “authentic” self is. 2. That authentic self is typically a horrible person, and admitting it would destroy the fantasy world they create about themselves.
NPDs lie & deny, cheat, steal, betray, manipulate, whine, tantrum/rage, gaslight, bully, and lie some more. Who would want to present THAT as their authentic self? So they hide. They are like chameleons. They wear masks to present themselves to others, to appear as they believe others want to see them. But they are never “real”.
I believe that some people hide their authentic selves and put on a persona that isn’t themselves because they feel their authentic selves are inadequate or that people won’t like them for whom they truly are. For example everyone is weird in their own way one person may always like to say a phrase or another likes their things to be a certain way or they go crazy. So people often hide parts of themselves to appear more likable or smarter so that they could seem more “normal” or blend in with society more cleanly.
Conformity pressure. You think that perhaps you will not be pleasing to your friends and family if you let it all hang out.
To a certain extent, we certainly do need to please others and conform to society’s customs and so on. But often we pay too big a price for it – we give up being the unusual person we all are inside.
“Dare to be different” That’s probably a slogan for something, but it’s a good idea. Unless you are into some really bad stuff inside you, you will, possibly after some time, be accepted as who and what you are.
They are being unfairly dealt with: not being heard; being denied; being told a pack of lies, false justifications, or irrelevancies.
Everyone has to face his breaking point someday in life. You are not new, you are not alone. Almost all the great and successful people have overcome their breaking points in order to be become what they are! See, this is the time when you get a chance to know and realize your true potential. This is the time when your little hope and courage make you meet with a STRONGER YOU. So don’t lose your heart!
Now coming to your thought that says, “Everyone else is living a better life than yours.” But it’s really not true at all! Go to some nearby hospital and spend some time there, go to some mental asylum and have a look at life there, go to some orphanage and see how little children are living their lives, go to some old age home and spend some time there, you will come to realize that the life you have is really worth living.
You want to feel great about your life then see these two things are existing in your life or not:
People who care about you
A work that you have to perform in life
If you have even a single person who cares about you then be happy with your life and if you have a job/work to do then it’s amazing, what do you want more?!? You are still alive whereas thousands of people are dying every day in road accidents and covid-19 all over the world. Be grateful to God for your breath is still with you. Had God not loved you, you would have not been alive till this date!
Happiness is a decision and not a situation. Take a decision to remain happy in life. And believe all it needs a smile on your face. Just put on a lovely smile on your face and see out of the window of your negative thoughts—Life is really beautiful, really awesome and worth living.
Anxiety and Depression is end result of thinking negatively. It means that the body has been tuned to this state by days, weeks, months and in severe cases years of negative thinking pattern. A 360 degree change of thinking pattern is the need of the hour but it is not easier than said.
Anxiety and depression is the fruit of negative thinking pattern which gets embedded in the subconscious mind like the hard disk of your computer. Question: Does you computer open negative.docx when you click on positive.docx, you will say a big NO. Same way, what you feed over weeks, months and years, the same is reflected and projected by your subconscous mind. So you need to change your thinking pattern.
For most majority of patient’s, without doctor’s intervention it is not possible to cure anxiety and depression. Also not possible to cure with Modern Medicine if it is in advanced stage. The best option is Homeopathy or other alternatives like Ayurveda which cure the cause but but you really need to be lucky and make serious efforts to locate a doctor who knows his medicine because if the doctor doesnt know his medicine it can escalate the depression. Doctors you will find a many but a doctor who knows his medicine very few.
Anxiety, Depression, Anger, fear of failure, getting upset at the drop of the hat, apathy, general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, or sadness, early awakening, excess sleepiness, insomnia, or restless sleep, agitation, excessive crying, irritability, or social isolation, repeatedly going over thoughts, excessive hunger, fatigue, loss of appetite, or restlessness, means your thinking pattern needs an OVERHAUL. It’s time to go to the mechanics of the mind. No, it is not possible without help for 99.9%. wordpress is not the place to get help, here you can only get tips.
Read the book by Bruce Lipton – Biology of Belief.
If you need to really get in touch with a Doctor who knows his medicine just write after reading above book.
No one can be 100% the way you want to be but yes, you can be 100% the way you want to be
For a depressed person, the mantra is think positive throughout the day, through out the month, through out the year and your subconscious mind will bring you out of the depression.
Ok. So you find all better off in life than you ian’t it. May be. Have you probed deeper. Are you enamoured with only the glorified display of prosperity, happiness etc. Try to go deep and you’ll find you are way better off than most.
Many are well off by virtue of many parental resources. Many just squander irrespective of incomes. Many many factors are involved.
Real performers are value added people who have strived themselves. They are by virtue of certain qualities. Identify such qualities and adopt these qualities and traits.
You’ll never feel inferior or backward again
You are you. Be yourself. Everyone is actually not doing better than you. You are believing you are inferior for some underlying reasons. Typically we learn in childhood that we are never good enough. To change this conditioning I suggest you not compare yourself to others. Some are more and some are less successful. Having an integrated personality requires that we embrace our uniqueness. Success should be defined by the non materialistic values you hold dear.
People may be better than you at certain areas in life, but not everything.
Acknowledge your strengths and focus on building upon what you’re good at. This will help you build confidence and be proud of yourself and what you’re capable of.
You’re probably not going to have strengths in everything, so don’t worry if someone is better than you are at something. Chances are, you are better than them at something else. Always remind yourself of this in case you feel down.
I typically stay away from questions that force me to choose between one thing or another because my brain already has a tendency to split things into dichotomies and dichotomies don’t exist.
Whenever I feel the need to make a choice between two seemingly opposing things I want to train my brain to reconsider this notion and accept that I can be both angry and happy, both lost and found, both undecided and convinced.
Acknowledging that everything exists at once opens up the world for both me and my brain.
Back to your question.
I always “trust my gut”. Or, to be more precise, I trust my feelings, no matter where they come from.
Sometimes they come from my chest or my throat.
I have a friend who is really, really nice to me. On the surface I like her a lot. When I am with her my entire body wants to run. I can’t explain it, and I don’t spend time with her anymore, even though I have no rational way to articulate why.
I once went to a job interview. I was sitting at the reception desk and felt I couldn’t breathe. I kept my appointment but knew I would never work there, even though the opportunity was good and the people seemed perfectly nice.
When I met wife, intellectually I wasn’t sure we were right for each other. We are so very different. But I had a sturdy, solid feeling in my chest. Stay. Our relationship has not always been easy. We have worked hard to understand one another. We are really happy now and hardly ever fight.
I would never go against what my body is trying to tell me.
I don’t think it would be wise to always follow your instincts just as it wouldn’t be wise to always ignore them. They may not always be right, but some people are more risk takers than others.
There’s an interesting duality here because one is willing to take the risk to possibly succeed first, deal with the possible failure later while the other is more content with dealing with their current success (or status) first and then if the time comes, realize later they should have acted when they didn’t.
I will often follow my instincts and while it’s not always correct, it certainly has opened more doors that would have otherwise been closed had I just ignored them completely and in some cases I really was flying blind. So I’d choose to simply keep it that way and when things don’t work out I can view it as a learning experience.
Like anything, there needs to be a balance and what that is exactly varies per person.
Hindsight is a B**ch as they say. I mean, being rational / logical does not completely eliminate bad decisions – it’s just a way to compare between the available options with any information that supports each of them. One can be logical and still choose no better than the “lesser” of two evils. The more options, the more info to go through, time / energy spent to analyze, confusion sets in, and it is very easy to get caught in less important details.
Gut instinct, or rather acting on it alone, is simultaneously very brave and very stupid – depends on the main outcome and perspective of the person. All they have to go on are their emotions. Instinct is very energetic, drives behaviour, usually “sees” the bigger picture more clearly – though not the process, where things can become chaotic.
Bottom line, no one ever achieved anything worthwhile without both good reasoning and good instincts.
Without logic, we’re animals. Without emotion, we’re robots. Human beings need both.
I don’t like either or options. That’s turning decision making into following a rule.
Better is to make a thoughtful choice each time. Sometimes that will mean following a gut instinct. Sometimes being more analytical about it.
Gut instinct is useful for when there are a lot of factors, especially emotional factors. Subconsciously we weigh dozens of minor factors we may be hardly aware of to come up with the answer that feels right.
Being analytical is helpful when the factors are clear and can be weighed thoughtfully.
Learning to tell when to use gut instinct and when to analyze is the sign of intelligent decision making, not rule-bound making one choice or the other. Using rules is the epitome of not thinking.
5. I do choose to never follow it. always following your gut instinct or psychic idea would be foolish and slightly insane. its very useful at times but not always. never following it would just be a severe form of cautiousness.
If this is that happens “always” then it is a result of a habit. The first thought or reaction you have is negative or a scared one. And when it actually results in what you thought you tend to start believing that you’re thinking on the right track and then this continues. It takes quite some practice to turn these into good thoughts and belief, not impossible. Few ideas that you can try and see if they help you.
Practice meditation to let go of your negative thoughts
Follow universal law of attraction “like always attracts like”. When you start pushing yourself for honest positive thoughts and see it working, it will change your habit and belief system. Start with small things.
Whenever you have such thoughts, keep telling yourself loudly “STOP these thoughts”. It takes a while but eventually you will learn to control your thoughts.
Avoid friends/ people who are negative. They say right, staying around happy and positive people makes you happy. Try that.
Celebrate your good times, they will make you happy and in return turn your belief pattern into a positive one.
Trust me when I say, IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. I always follow the rule bother yourself over things that you can control, and mind is something you definitely can. The sooner you convert your thoughts into positive ones, it will help you grow into a better person and accomplish goals faster.
You may be suffering from an anxiety condition. This could be mental or physical (like a chemical imbalance in your body or brain). If you are unable to manage it and it is negatively impacting your life, you should seek professional assistance.
You state you always feel this way. Has it always been this way or can you pinpoint a time when it started?
Being isolated like many of us where covid-19 is spreading can cause feelings like this.
If you have something negative that you know is going to happen in your future, it can cause it.
Being a chronic procrastinator can cause this.
This could be caused by PTSD. Keep in mind PTSD can start months and even years after the traumatic experience.
This are few ideas that you can try and see if they help you.
Sounds like you’re defensive, scared of strangers or afraid of being judged. I’m fairly sure you already realize why you are this way. However, being aware of this is the first step. I would suggest looking at something, taking a deep breath and just saying “it’s okay, relax” – quietly, of course.
It seems like you’re trying to hide. Take pride in yourself as I think people are looking at an attractive person. Try to replace the slouching with putting your shoulders back and sitting up straight.
Maybe you’re trying to present a low profile in order to deflect unwanted attacks or approaches. I do the same thing. I’m trying to let the world know that there’s “nothing to see here” -”nothing to get excited about.”
because you are continually oppressed and act submissive?
imagine the next time, with a specific person or not, and plan some new behavior, say something theatrical, or humorous. repeat and try new things.