- First of all, “you know that you are lazy” because your mind has convinced you so! It has already created a mental pattern that says “I am lazy”, “I cannot accomplish anything”! It is a mental pattern that is connected with very low self-worth!
So, I think you need to develop more self-love and self-respect! You need to change your mind set to start thinking that you have value and you can be productive!
It is possible because I have done it, but after a long time and with lots of effort!
Well, you have to start with small and “silly” things to praise yourself! For example, my favorite one that I am doing and has helped me a lot to build a better relationship with myself is:
- When I wake up, I say every day 3 things that I am proud of!
- When I wake up, I ALWAYS fix my bed!
- When I wake up, I go to the mirror and say to myself: I LOVE YOU!
I know it sounds silly but it hides lots of power! To change mentality and way of thinking takes lots of time and effort! Even years!
So, just try those few suggestions for a couple of weeks, and see how it will affect your mind!
2. YOU NEED TO TRUST YOURSELF. There is no one in this world that can give you happiness except YOU! It’s all about YOU! You’re accomplishments, you’re happiness…Everything in your life starts with you, when you decide to dream, you’ll dream and when you decide to accomplish that dream you need to do hard work…
“HARD WORK PAYS OFF” (you may not see it immediately but it’ll pay off)
How can anyone value you if you don’t give a chance to them to value you? And don’t mix up lazy and self-worth because if you don’t have self-worth you will be depressed not lazy! See some motivational videos, meditate, Spend time with your loved ones, think calmly about what you need in your life, if you need a thing to be accomplished check yourself that Are you doing at least one thing a day that may take you to your goal ? Ask yourself questions every day before sleep! Maintain a journal, write in that what you did today. And lastly ‘Do something today that your future self will thank you for’ and never doubt your self-worth.
3. Start with looking at why you don’t have any self-worth or trust yourself. Who taught you that? You learned that as a child. It is not the truth. Everyone has worth. You just haven’t discovered yours.
You can learn to trust yourself by knowing what your limiting thoughts are. For the next several days, write down every negative thought you have about yourself.
You’ll see the same ones coming up over and over. You can replace these thoughts. I suggest you start telling yourself “I am worthy” and “I trust myself to do what I need to do.
You will gain self-worth by doing what you can, with what you have right now. Every time you write down a negative thought, you are building your self-worth. Every action you take, every task you complete will build your self-worth. You are worth the effort.
- In a way you certainly can trust yourself. You can be sure nothing gets done. You are very reliable. But you may think a little deeper: what goal are you so reliable to? And how does this goal relate to you. For many people by the way doing nothing makes sure they won’t fail and are protected against disappointment, it is a kind of risk-avoidance. Or in another way, you know for sure you will fail, no risk involved, no insecurity. The self-worth is just a side effect. And here too, failure is a loyal friend.
4. Work on not being lazy? Baby steps.
- Self-worth has to be worked on first because you’re not going to be motivated if you’re in a negative state of mind. Trusting yourself is trusting that you are positive and logical mindset can get you through conflict and tough times? But you have to build up that mindset first. Takes a while and lots of effort. So either you want it or you don’t.
- I don’t think it is that you know you’re too lazy, I think it is that you have internalized toxic messages, and I would suggest allowing yourself to observe the contradictions in your personality and the internalized messages.
Likely this will cause some anxiety, especially initially, but it’s no big deal because it’s just cognitive dissonance that will take care of itself while you keep on keeping on and I believe in you.
- Well, find something that interests you and focus on succeeding in that. Even if it’s something like keeping your room organized, helping Mom, working part-time. If you are faithful in the little things, you can build up your confidence.