Many people argue that humans aren’t naturally monogamous. If that’s true, then sex really isn’t a big deal and that in reality we should all be sharing each other. What do you think?

  1. I think that people should think about if we are going to bypass morality and everything think about protection first and foremost. Now in reality let’s say we are talking about a threesome. Do you know what a safe threesome would entail? If it was two girls, it would require a condom change each time the person entering a female, the male would have to change the condom every time he switched partners. Using one condom only would contaminate each female to each other he would be safe but they would not be.

From another Health perspective would be that if we just all had sex with each other there would be a lot of pregnancies and Sexually transmitted disease. Now I have always looked at things in a more practical perspective and way to lose my virginity until I knew that I was old enough to take care of a child if that happened.

From a moral standpoint I would say that it would have to be up to each individual person and there’s no conclusive studies on whether human beings are completely monogamous or not. Some human beings are completely monogamous and some beings are not. That’s the issue we are so varied that nobody can ever really get that answer.

The only thing that we can do if someone does not want to be monogamous is protect ourselves and others by using condoms correctly and following the directions lubrication and properly cleansing ourselves before and after sex.

After a woman has sex it is imperative to use the bathroom and to clean out her area with water like a spray hose or a washcloth and to always wipe front to back. I know this all sounds very rudimentary but it is all practical advice.

I just wanted to add that if anyone has anal sex then a condom and lube need to be used as well period anal sex is a very easy way to transmit sexually transmitted diseases.

If performing oral sex on a man use a condom if an active oral sex on a woman other than someone then you are regular tested partner then use a dental dam or a piece of clear film.

2. Humans don’t naturally use computers either, but we enjoy it. We don’t ‘naturally’ consume cooked foods, and yet we do just fine now eating them almost all the time.

Just because we might not ‘naturally’ all be compelled to do something (and I do argue that monogamous pair bonding has happened all through human history and that therefore something about it must be natural for many people), doesn’t mean that some people don’t choose to do it anyway.

Sex isn’t a big deal to some people, and we should allow those people to enjoy themselves (provided they are doing it safely and consensually).

Sex is a big deal to others, and we should allow those people to enjoy sex within whatever context makes them comfortable (provided they are doing it safely and consensually).

If a group of people want to get together and all-share each other then that’s fine by me. And if two people decide they only ever want to have sex with each other for the rest of their lives, then that’s also fine.

Personally, I feel that I am entirely naturally monogamous, in that it is not in my nature to cheat, have multiple relationships, or to have casual sex outside of committed relationships. That just how I’m built – I’d never be comfortable enough to do that. For me, sex and love are intrinsically linked, and I’m not really built to love more than one person like that.

My thoughts are that we should allow consenting adults to enjoy sex in whatever way works for them, not trying to say that there is only one way to ‘properly’ enjoy sex or relationships.

3. Why would you base what you “should” do in life based on what is or isn’t natural? What does it mean for monogamy to be natural or not? Pre humans and other animals don’t seem concerned with that so much, they just want to procreate. Males would often run around and just jump on females and do their business. Human societies have different rules and customs throughout history. The last few hundred years, there is a particular emphasis on individuality and smaller family structures and cities, which has also impacted the way we deal with sex as a society. I think it lead to people being skittish about it, less familiar with getting close to a variety of people maybe?

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