Here’s a few things that spring to mind:
- They lead by example. That example serves to both set a standard of acceptable conduct, inspire others to both lift their game and emulate that behavior.
One could say the principle is caught as opposed to being taught! Culture flows from the top down, who we are and how we conduct ourselves impacts and influences those around us.
They view each and every member of the team as a vital part in the organization. Value is not determined by position alone. Positions relate to specific roles within the organization, while they may differ, the basic value attached to each and every individual remains the same.
Using fear as a rod to motivate people, is both a negative principle and a practice that ultimately leeches the vitality of your staff.
It separates people, curtails creativity and stifles innovation.
Far better to give people a positive reason to perform and continue to do so.
Positivity creates the energy required to maintain a high level of productivity. Remuneration and perks must and should equal results.
We pay people what they’re worth not what the market says they’re worth.
They invest in the team. An investment in the team always equals an investment in the business. The team are and will always be your greatest asset, after all they’re responsible to execute your vision and enable the entity to grow.
Skills and experience alone aren’t the only critical elements in defining an individual or teams potential.
Work environment and conditions, structure and work flow, available resource and support also play a vital role. Great leaders empower those around them to succeed.
The quality of the tools we provide have a direct bearing on the productivity and success of those within the organization.
Great leaders know how to get the best out of people. They understand the basic principle underlying the process that states that leaders need people and people need leaders.
It’s a partnership that must be based around mutual respect and trust.
People aren’t expendable commodities and to treat them as such is not only to diminish them but yourself as well.
Maximizing an individual’s potential takes time. Great leaders take the people with them. Treating people as little more than expendable commodities sets up a revolving door within the business that sees people come and go on a regular basis.
An absence of long-term placement within the organization limits both the expertise and mentoring that can be leveraged over time.
Treating others in a way that we ourselves would like to be treated should be both obvious and fundamental to all we do.
Leadership is all about service, it’s a privilege not a right. How we view the platform ultimately affects how we both see the people and treat them.
2. Knowledge, communication, inclusiveness, the ability to function at the operational level (delegate responsibility) while also keeping in mind the larger picture (vision). the ability to instill organizational values/culture to subordinates… the ability to build loyalty in subordinates to the organization. Knowledge of a given field is essential for respect, style of communication is an acknowledged foundational aspect of leadership, as many studies have shown that leaders communicate with a particular style. Inclusiveness means the ability to make subordinates feel they matter, that their contribution means something, and that too, is accomplished by focusing on positive aspects of people’s suggestion. The ability to criticize in a constructive fashion is essential. Body language is essential. Entire books and libraries have been written on the subject, so it’s difficult to give an answer in one paragraph. Finally, I would emphasize that the very definition of good leadership is culturally and organizationally contextual – Japanese, Chinese, Russians, and Americans have cultural norms that influence the definition of leadership, and leadership is differently construed in the military and an advertising agency. In essence, it is impossible to give a single definition of what constitutes good leadership. Context is essential.
- The definition of leadership listed;
1. Personal Responsibility.
“You lead today by building teams, encouraging accurate conversations and placing others first. It’s not about you.”
2. Simplify Constantly.
“Every leader needs to clearly explain the top three outcomes the organization is working on. If you can’t, then you’re not leading well.”
3. Understand Breadth, Depth, and Context.
“One of the most important things is context. It’s how your company fits in with the world and how you respond to it.”
4. Company alignment and personal time management.
“Set the example by spending your time around the things that are really important: setting priorities, measuring outcomes, and rewarding them.”
5. Leaders learn constantly and learn how to teach.
“A leader’s primary roles are to teach, manage and coach. People who work with you don’t have to agree with you, but they have to feel you’re willing to share what you’ve learned.”
6. Stay true to your own style.
“Leadership is an intense journey into yourself. You can use your own style to get anything done. It’s about being self-aware. Every morning, I spent a minute thinking to myself ‘I could have done three things better yesterday.’ “
7. Manage by setting boundaries with freedom in the middle.
“The boundaries are commitment, accuracy, trust, and teamwork. Within those guidelines, there’s plenty of freedom. But no one can cross those four boundaries.”
8. Stay disciplined and detailed.
“Good leaders are never afraid to intervene personally on things that are important. Michael Dell can tell you how many computers were shipped from Singapore yesterday.”
9. Leave a few things unsaid.
“I may know an answer, but I’ll often let the team find its own way. Sometimes, being an active listener is much more effective than ending a meeting with me defining 17 actions.”
10. Like people.
“Today, it’s employment at will. Nobody’s here who doesn’t want to be here. So it’s critical to understand people, to always be fair, and to want the best in them. And when it doesn’t work, they need to know it’s not personal.”
Adapted from a GE Leadership meeting presented by Jeff Immelt
3. Leadership is a situational attribute. It is complex…and it can be mapped in different ways. True Leadership is Perceptual leadership that has been proven consistently over time. Here are some points to ponder:
A leader should have some value in the form of a power, skill, knowledge or a talent, that followers can imbibe or benefit from.
2. Walk the talk.
What is said… should be done. What is committed should be delivered. No excuses or blame.
Whether in principles or ethics… or in delivering value. There must be consistency.
4. Create Leaders.
A leader has to c4eate more leaders, rather than more followers.
A listening ear that understands and does not judge… that listens intently… sometimes for what is not even spoken.
A helping hand that reaches out to those who need it without expecting anything in return.
A warm heart that fulfills the emotional needs of the followers without building dependence.
A sharp mind that is always learning new things. Planning for the future … creating a vision… solving issues…
A strong back that can carry the load that others cannot manage.
A true leader has the basic 4 qualities and most of the Bonus Qualities described above.
Are you going to be a true leader? Then more power to you.
- A good leader is a multiplier – a person who can bring out the best in his or her followers. In contrast, a diminishes is one who suppresses the brilliance of his subordinates.
The greatest difference between a multiplier and a diminishes is the way he views his team. A diminishes tends to believe that he is the most intelligent, hence he is the one who needs to make all the decisions. He pushes his view forward and suppresses the thoughts of his team, leading to the team giving up on bringing out ideas and just follow whatever the leader says. On the other hand, the multiplier sees brilliance in everyone, and makes sure to bring out the best in them. He knows he is smart, but he cannot be the best in everything. Thus, he ensures that his team engages in serious debates to let all the thought processes flow and makes his decisions based on there.
When you meet a diminishes, you feel that he is the smartest person in the world. When you meet a multiplier, he makes you feel like you’re the smartest.
Personally, I have just recently realized how much of a diminishes I have been, so I’m still actively working to change for the better.
4. A good leader is someone who understands that their role as a leader is to empower people, help them develop and help them reach their goals.
To do this I believe a good leader would have these 3 traits.
- Ability to empower.
The greatest leaders are humble. They realize that if they move on their own decisions all the time they will miss out on the minds of the whole company that could potentially contribute. They understand their weaknesses and are open about it so that they can fill in the gap.
The greatest leaders empower. They give their followers and team the ability to develop and pursue their dreams, allowing them to transform into a better version of themselves.
The greatest leaders have vision. They can look forward, see what is around the corner and inspire others to understand how to get there and that it is worth getting there.
Someone is a good leader when he has thoughts that are far beyond the present times and lead into a future that is a bold new world. Leaders are not made but born they say and it might be true, if you look at the biographies of many great leaders like Winston Churchill, Mahatma Gandhi or even Martin Luther King, they all came with the innate born skills of:
- Thoughts about how to change the world.
- Knew how to conquer the world.
- Knew how to move their followers.
- Legacies that lasted beyond their lives.
To be a good leader is to be a LEADER, led by example and always be correct. Leaders are spotted by their ability to stand up and be counted every time they hear their names being called.
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- Possibly … It really depends on the circumstances surrounding the promotion or what is seen as a promotion. If they were simply answering a question then I wouldn’t call it promoting.
If they were making promotional statements about a product they had a financial or personal stake in, or if they were lying about how they really felt about a product, then that would be promoting then that should be illegal because it’s obviously being done for financial gain.
The gray area, for me, is when they’re helping a company that’s been attacked for saying nice things about them, like what happened to that canned bean company not to long ago. All the company owner did was pay Trump a compliment, and not an overly extravagant one, at that.
But, listening to the anti-Trumpers on the left, you would have thought the owner had committed the most heinous crime imaginable. In that case, I think Trump and/or any of his associates were right in paying the product a compliment, or, if you prefer, promoting the product to try and undo the damage the other side was doing.
2. There is nothing wrong with the President “promoting” the products of a privately-owned company, as long as he does not have a financial interest in that company. As Raymond Beck noted, President Reagan talked about his favorite jelly beans (Jelly Bellies, which actually are way above average). And also nearly everything the President does is news, so the mere act of publicly wearing a Gucci suit or Prada Shoes is going to “promote” those products.
But if the President has a financial interest in the privately-owned company, that becomes a different story.
But if the President has a significant ownership share in the privately-owned company, there’s at least a justifiable assumption that he’s doing it for his personal benefit. That’s not so good. He’s supposed to be promoting the “public interest” (increasing our overall wealth, if nothing broader), and instead is promoting his personal wealth.
That’s why most recent Presidents have put their money in a blind trust, where he doesn’t even know what actions will increase his wealth and which will decrease it. (Except to the extent that promoting the growth of the economy as a whole will also improve his own wealth if prudently invested.)
That’s kind of difficult for somebody whose wealth isn’t just in stocks and bonds and suchlike, but who directly owns one or more companies and is involved (or his family is involved) in managing those companies.
But that’s his problem. Not ours. It’s up to him to manage things in a way that doesn’t look corrupt, even if a really detailed analysis would show that his choice is “the best” one for some value of ‘best.”
The appearance of corruption is nearly as harmful as the actuality. It destroys trust in the President and the government as a whole
3. You need to know the law of the state of which person is the head of state.
If he or she is promoting such products as part of a trade mission to a foreign audience with the view that their countries procure them, I suppose this is within the law.
The following might be acceptable and within the law:
- Any wearing or using recognizable products in a normal manner without obvious promotion
- Using products regularly purchased under say “By appointment to the Head of State” methodology (as in UK)
- Wearing or using an acknowledged gift to (the Office) of Head of State which came about by say, a visit to the company’s factory.
The following might not be acceptable within the law:
- Secret gifts with secret excessive funds to promote
- Products with a promise of future benefits after he or she left office.
4. As Bill Clinton famously said, it depends on what your meaning of “is” is.
So, probably it is not done, but what is your idea of “promoting” mean? It’s up to you to define your question.
After the CEO of a major Latin food distributor was recognized by President Trump for a very generous donation to feed the hungry, people protested that he was endorsing that company.
What they missed was that President Obama also did the same thing, with the same man, for much the same reason. A year or two later, Michelle Obama recognized him too, for working on her project to feed kids healthy meals.
Along with considering anything illegal, you have to consider who gained what. If anybody promotes something without personal gain, I doubt there would be charges of illegality. Especially when it is just name-calling, instead of facts.
5. This is a great question in the light of recent events involving impeached for life president of the US Donald Trump.
Various laws prohibit administration officials from anything that might look like a conflict of interest because these are appointed positions.
However, the president and vice-president, being elected officials, are exempt from these laws.
The exemptions relied on the officeholder to have some sense of honour and principles not to abuse their positions. They were framed with men of integrity in mind.
Trump has demonstrated since even before he took office that he lacks even the most basic of morals, so an exemption to conflict of interest rules would be like a red rag to a bull.
But the question raises what I believe is an even more important point: Namely, that just because you can flout a rule or even if you have the law on your side, doesn’t mean that you should.
Decent people act decently even when they don’t have to; an indecent person will act indecently no matter what.
And that is what the US has as it’s president; an indecent individual who acts indecently pretty much all of the time.
6. Only if they, or a person with whom they have a financial link, benefit from the sales by the company. If the company makes major contributions to their campaign, that becomes a grey area. Is he providing a service to supporters on government time or expressing his opinion of the product under ordinary free speech rights? How about if he plans a product sold by someone who donated to an opponent’s campaign? It gets complicated to say the least.
Before the advent of a zillion campaign finance laws the solution was simple. Let the press report it and the voters make up their own mind if it was appropriate or not. With much of the press heavily biased and a mindset that anything not legally defined as criminal activity is acceptable until proven otherwise by the press or courts
The Road of life is littered with Potholes
When Socrates said “know thyself,” it was this experience of inner light he was speaking of. The experience of the soul. The true self is not a knowledge of our faults, but of a higher power capable of taking us beyond our faults.
You have a car that’s in good shape. You can drive through most weather conditions without any trouble. You encounter a pothole and your car will most likely help you avoid those hazards.
When emotionally healthy, anger and fear will work together. Your anger sets a good boundary so that fear can pilot through life without drama. If your car is a clunker with bad brakes, foggy windows, and old streaky wipers you have to be extra careful, just to make it through the storm.
Imagine driving down the road, lost in thought rejoicing in the music that uplifts. You hit a pothole. You know what a pothole means, aside from being holes in the road. Potholes are situations or conditions that hold you back.
A rut a defect in the road of life, a setback, and something that halts or jars us. These situations stop the flow of life
They prevent you from accomplishing what you’ve set for your life. In life when we’re moving too fast, we don’t stop to think about why (our) potholes occurred. As a result, we head for even larger ones perhaps getting stuck.
Fear is like a pothole. Fear can show up at the worst times. What do you do in those moments? How do you seize opportunities when you feel inadequate or intimidated?
Potholes are a part of life. Go over or around them, but keep moving. A pothole, like a living creature, continues to grow until its death. While a pothole has no parents, it is born from wear and weather. Day in and day out, roads have the burden of supporting the weight of thousands of cars.
This constant force eventually fractures the road. After continuous wear, cracks begin to emerge, and the weather begins to take its toll.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, roughly 19 million people in the United States have mental illnesses that involve persistent, outsized fear responses to seemingly ordinary stimuli.
A door slam becomes a gun’s report to a shattered combat veteran, for example, while smoke from burning leaves might trigger smell–based memories for a genocide survivor.
Marianne Williamson said this “Miraculous transformations occur. Change your thinking from, fear to faith and love. “
Dishonoring fear is something many of us do from early childhood. This can lead to anxiety disorder. We all learn to devalue and disable our fear. Witness this sensation of fear by feeling it, and take the courageous step to do the very thing you fear. Do not fight your ego. Witness it. This is the highest form of human intelligence, to observe yourself without judgment and transform fear into love.
- problem solving is about Knowing oneself: how one feels; the experiences we have; the explanations that go with each experience; and the options we try, to change; and the strength to do it all, again and again.
- As we know more out self, we realize that it is our judgment that creates impression whether good or bad.
- Our opinion of others is reflection of us and that’s why I believe knowing self leads to deal with others much easier.
- I wouldn’t positively advise that. Better bet, one I have long laid already, is to 100% accept that no one has to accept you anyway. Or me, for that matter. Sweet deal.
So rather than pursue some ephemeral and dreamily wispy wished-for 1% trait of you-specific compatibility, why not lead with your own real likes, wants, needs and loves? These shine up the world around you with a glow that always shows those who like such things where you are, and who. There’s natural and mutual appeal there. That same likewise glow naturally wards off those disinterested, disinclined or unlike; otherwise.
That’s how you find your people, and it won’t be by pursuing them. That’s more than a little disgusting, depending how. Even just in principle it’s an unsettling and off-putting thing to set yourself upon. Everyone in the world, everyone you meet anyway, pursued and perused on the off-chance they may possess this inclination, this trait, and this 1% compatibility with you. And that’s all you’re even looking at them for! Not the person. You see through looking for this gleamingly elusive prize, which has practically nothing to do with them except by coincidence.
Pretty? Not even as a thought experiment. It won’t be by pursuit you catch in another’s mind, eye, heart, attention or the reverse. It will be by recognizing the other’s autonomy; all others. Recognizing they don’t have to act how you like or like how you act. Likewise. Not one of them has to, and that’s not hard or bad or difficult. It’s actually fine. Because you show yourself. You do your part. Give is yours. Let take be theirs. You don’t want any particular made-up specific reaction to you.
Your interest is in their natural response, find out what that is. How this person and you naturally mean and are to each other, and with. In interplay mutually aimed towards knowing – or not! Not if that’s what you find they don’t care for, or you. Good news! Good to find out.
Aim away. Aim yourself, and not at people just with. See who falls in, rings in alignment or maybe even polarized, and who drifts away, orbits off on their own courses. That’s rock and roll! Let it be.
Give yourself true, no less than you mean or other than you are. You’ll never have to worry or wonder why someone likes you then, or why they don’t happen to. It’s because of you. It’s because of each individual they. No. Not quite.
It’s not you or me. It’s we, or the fact there isn’t any such second person singular. Not really and not well. We haven’t got it in us.
We mustn’t pursue anyone. I don’t mean we can’t or should not, only that it’s nothing we must. There is no one we must pursue, and no reason why we should cock that kind of angle at them. Be easier in your aim. There’s no necessity or benefit to such must, when nothing compels us. Anyone who must pursue others they don’t even know is repulsive.
I mean that in the personal electromagnetism sense. It repels, because it is too much aimed charge, and badly aimed – not at the person, but at some secret or hidden prize that may or may not be inside them. And that’s all you need them for. Isn’t that pretty?
It’s ugly as a crock of curried feces, even in thought experiment.
Aim like that, with such pungent and musty needy must dragging it off, is liable to repel the very person who could have otherwise been perfect, compatible, greatly attracted to your own good or otherwise a worthwhile find. Suppose you’d actually aimed to find who they are. Whoever and whatever they may be, for discovery and exploration of what may be good. For discovering yourself in what they bring out in you, as they discover likewise in converse.
Imagine that. Instead of what they could be to you. Desirable aim.
2. Let the thought experiment begin with ourselves. When we love ourselves we maintain a balance of priorities, responsibilities and pleasures.
If we are able to give ourselves 100 minutes a day in personal time, exercise, grooming that leaves 14.4 hours of a day to serve others in some manner often with compensation of a wage. This will allow eight hours of sleep. Your actual times may vary. In being good enough for ourselves we are able to be good for other people.
In pleasing just one other person our world can be made complete and a stable life can be maintained.
- Don’t try to be within the 99% to be included or don’t set yourself apart to be included in the 1%. Instead, do exactly your deepest desire, so that you are doing what you want to do with your life.
Above and beyond the 99% or the 1%. Just doing what you want to do. That is what, I am doing.
Just pursuing the best potential my creativity can bring. Why get into statistics and being accepted or not accepted?
In Lalithasahasranama- (sacred hymn in Hinduism) a term comes- Bhava-abhava vivarjitha- someone who is above and beyond having or not having.
That is what one should strive for. I am trying
Really? I think you’re full of shit!
If you genuinely wanted to be ruthless and cold then it wouldn’t matter what anyone else said, because you wouldn’t care enough to care what they thought.
So, stop trying to get attention from people this way because it’s not helping you and it’ll eventually get to the point where no one else will have the energy to keep trying to help you.
I think you have low self-esteem due to something or someone/s actions or words or beliefs, and you have accepted this to mean you are faulty, or wrong, or bad or whatever it is you have been told you are. But guess what? You’re not bad, you’re not broken, you’re not faulty, you’re not wrong, it’s not your fault, and hurting yourself or others achieves nothing but more pain, guilt, sadness, regret, rejection and so much more.
So, acknowledge what it is that hurts you or degraded you or took away your power and cry it out, scream it out, find a huge piece of chip board and punch the f*** out of it, do whatever you need to do to purge all these negative emotions you have trapped inside you.
And then go to a place where you feel safe, even better, somewhere that you feel good and if possible go to sleep. If you can’t sleep then get yourself in a comfortable position, close your eyes and consciously focus on breathing in and out as slowly as you can.
Breathe in through your nose, hold it briefly then breathe out through your mouth.
As you breathe in, think of something (anything at all) that brings a smile to your face or that makes you feel good…even if it’s just a tiny little bit good, it doesn’t matter, it just has to be something positive.
Then as you slowly breathe out through your mouth, imagine your negative, bad, sad, yucky, painful etc thoughts and feelings are flowing out of your body with your exhaling breath.
Breathe in the good, breathe out the bad, breathe in the good, and breathe out the bad. And do this for at least 3 minutes, more if you can, and just keep your focus on your breathing in good and out bad and without realizing it at first, you’ll find yourself becoming aware that your body has started to relax, your lower half will feel a little heavier as if it’s almost sinking into whatever you’re resting on, and you’ll have a general feeling of relief all over.
This is what you need to do every time you’re feeling out of control or at risk or whatever it is that you feel. And I can guarantee you that if you can do this on a fairly consistent basis, you’re going to start seeing the world around you in a very different way.
The first part is vague. It’s a generalization. Could be true in multiple ways I’m sure, none of them particularly useful. Pointless I’d call it.
The second part is advice. Advice is not true or false per se. It’s just advice. Submitted for your consideration: if you see the use of it, try it out. See how it fits your life. Discard it, if not perfectly satisfied. If you don’t see the use of it, don’t bother about it.
Same as anything else anyone says. Use your judgment, take what’s of use, and discard what’s not.
“People often treat you the way they treat themselves. So try not to take it personally and ignore people who disrespect and insult you.”
Sure, some behave in ways that reflect some lack in themselves, which they pass on to you, the customer. For example: disrespectful people don’t respect themselves, either – if they had any self-respect, they wouldn’t lower themselves to act that way! And yet who cares? How does the advice follow from the premise? Even if we grant the premise? Let’s say a person is treating you the way they treat themselves. So? Should you then ignore all they do because of that?
How does how they treat themselves come into it? They can treat themselves anyway they please. It’s their privilege!
They cannot treat you anyway they please. You are not theirs. If they wrong you or insult you – you may have something to say about it. That’s if you care to. If you have a grievance you may level the charge. If you don’t care to, that’s your business.
Point is: how they treat their own self gives them no permission, latitude or excuse for how they treat yours. How you treat me, I have a stake in that. Where there’s stake, there’s say.
Say, though, is voluntary. Just because you have say doesn’t mean you have to. If you’re the sort to let a slight pass – maybe you disdain conflict, or you recognize the worth of their opinion? – You are free to let their crack be beneath you. Big time.
If on the other hand you’re moved to speak, to object – some are. We are all free to do so. Just as we’re all free to respond.
Ignoring someone’s worthless contribution is an option, as you wish. “Worthless” here just means worthless-to-you. You are the one deciding what response of yours its worth, if any. Entirely your call, respond or ignore.
2. The Golden Rule is a fallacy because one cannot treat the other one like one because everyone is a unique one that is not the one being treated like someone else’s one that is not itself.
If I do not want to be treated like a slave, do not enslave me, and if I do not want to be like you, do not call me primitive. Because that is not how you treat you like a primitive. Do not invade my lands and do not claim discovery to me. Do not name me yourselves I had a name before you became aware of me I was being without you
That said, the one with the greatest respect is the one with the most pride in the self because you cannot make someone who is proud of who they are feel disrespected to the point of disrespecting you because they are too busy doing what makes them proud of themselves a d that thing is not about you being disrespectful toward them.
The notion of humility then is a would be brainwashers tool because the proud do not do something they are not proud of because pride is all they have to give you can never take who they are even when you claim you own them
- You should have a baseline inside, if you are upset hurt happy bla bla you will return to that if given the chance
People test each other when they meet and figure out a hierarchy subconsciously it’s almost always done it’s very strange to me but it’s really normal
Some initial confrontations seem necessary for people to feel comfortable with their roll, people will test you and you will both put each other in the right place… humans are odd rats do this lol
So initially if someone seems confrontational give it a minute great friendships can come from it, people are just weird 🙄
If someone is constantly insulting there better be some perks!
I went off question how odd lol
People can treat you better than they are able to treat or think of themselves for a wile if it is in there nature to be that way in the first place, everyone has a breaking point though
3. This is true to some extent but there is one more aspect to it, how much so ever we are worthy of respect, but our worth is communicated correctly by our body language, vibe and attitude which comes out of self-confidence, till our worth or image is communicated correctly to the people, they may find difficulty in respecting us.
So, problem is not that we are not worthy of respect but the problem is that we are not able to communicate that we our worthy of respect without even speaking.
So the key to get respect from all the people around is that if you are worthy of respect then develop self-confidence in you so that your expressions, body language, words, tone, everything clearly communicates that you deserve respect.
Now such self – confidence comes from Self- awareness and Self-love, which we need to learn and practice.
- Yes, you heard that right.
The feeling of depression leaves one feeling lonely and isolated. Whatever you do, it just goes wrong somehow and you end up blaming yourself even if you aren’t responsible for it. You feel, nothing is right. You don’t feel like getting out of your bed, meet people (not even friends), or do anything that makes you happy.
However, that’s only increasing your depression. If you are facing something similar or even worse, please talk to someone whom you are close to, someone who you can trust and can understand your issues without judging you for anything. That person can be anyone; you are parents, your sibling, your friend, your boyfriend/girlfriend, your teacher, your colleague.
Sharing and discussing your problems might not solve your problems at one go if you expect so. But, it surely gives you a bit of a relief and leaves you with a state of mind where you can think of some or the other ways to get over this feeling.
At such a stage of life, you might even receive free suggestions from a lot of people, even those who hardly know you. The tip to avoid them is to hear but not listen what they say. You’re the best person to know and understand what works best for you.
Don’t run away from your problems. Because this feeling of depression is a result of stressful situations occurring in your life. If you do not know how to face them, consult someone who can give you the right advice.
And, if the situation is worse, psychiatric help will certainly help you get over this feeling and add a new dimension to think and act from a different, perhaps, better perspective. People say, one visits a psychologist only if they’re mad. However, these are narrow-minded, orthodox people who still live in stone-age. You’re NOT supposed to believe them.
I have been living with this feeling for over 2 years now, so I understand what you do be going through. I do what I feel is right for me and makes me happy. Take actions that help you solve your problems, bit by bit, one step at a time, and gradually along the process, you’d feel the improvement in yourself.
I believe, there’s nothing wrong if you are in depression. It occurs because you are a bit more sentimental and think more than others normally do. We all are different. We all tackle situations in our own ways. So, don’t worry. You cannot appreciate the beauty of a sunrise until you’ve felt the intensity of the dawn.
2. Felling depressed is a part of our day to day lives. We often feel depressed and low because of certain reasons. When you feel depressed you also feel like everything is going beyond control beyond your hands this happens because in that state our mind remains in such a low consciousness that we don’t realize that the things we think are going beyond us are actually normal. Nothing is out of the control it feels like that just because of the depressed feeling. The best solution for this is remove your stress. This feeling is common nowadays. I will say that have just half an hour for yourself and sit somewhere u will be alone with no one to disturb you when find such place think about yourself only. Your achievements, your failures, your goals, things that can motivate you. After this just work like that only.
- Monitor the thoughts that are making you feel depressed and low. Is there a reason or is it an irrational worry. Examine the root cause and replace the worrying thoughts with positive action.
3. Depression occurs if you are an emotional guy with weak mind….if you face repeated failures and things are happening against you
Then slowly depression finds in , subject to your mind is weak… it will not occur immediately for a case of 1 or 2 failures…to overcome this you need to develop a strong , calm mind… you need to develop the following attitudes for a strong, calm mind…
- Everyone gets an opportunity
- Life is a circle, those who are up will have to come down , those who are down will have to go up…
- Everything is temporary…
- Attitude of learning from the failures and are the stepping stones for success…
- Never expect anything for the duties you do…
- Always visualize and think positively and accept the worst with cool.
- Think about the worst for a fraction of time and give your acceptance with cool…
- Even some one’s criticism will be forgotten by them, as long as you don’t remember it…
To develop all these attitudes you have to have a calm mind which helps you to understand and adopt it…
Calm mind can be achieved by practicing meditation and breathing based pranayama’s.
Everyday visualize positive things are happening and write down positive things as if it happened… start visualizing that you are beautiful and smart and it will lead to being liked by yourself….then you will get big confidenc
4. When you feel like you are messing everything up, then stop for a while. Set a timer of 15 minutes and think about how much you have messed up and what was the reason behind that.
Think logically about the solution. Remember: no exceptions while solving the problems. Don’t think too much. Because that will eventually make you more depressed. And lastly have nice-cream while listening to music to clear your mind.
This too shall pass. Think of similar situations in the past, and you don’t think about those or let it impact you today. This will not impact your future.
We create our own reality by imposing a framework of our thought process on reality. Change the frame of reference, and you will be able to see things with a new perspective.
If it gets really bad, consult a therapist. There is no stigma in seeking help. It is a temporary condition, and will pass.