First, the Bible says to Christians, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.” 1Thess 4:11,12
And it also says in stronger terms, “In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we command you, brothers, to keep away from every brother who is idle and does not live according to the teaching you received from us. For you know how you ought to follow our example. We were not idle when we were with you, nor did we eat anyone’s food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you. We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to make ourselves a model for you to follow. For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.” We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat.” 2Thess 3:6–12
Being compensated for the work we do is not “serving money”.
Seeking money at the expense of goodness*, that is what the Bible was/is speaking of.
*: the mix of these three…
Transcendent love: a free gift of hoping for the virtuous betterment of ourselves and others. It is unconditional with no expectations in return and frees us and others of our fears so we can gain confidence, understanding and skill without being angry or defensive.
Wisdom: allows us to avoid traps and guides us to success using accumulated insights into what works and what doesn’t work in life and relationships.
It’s about who is master. Do you own your money, or does your money own you?
The Good Samaritan is a very good parable of a man with lots of money. He stepped in to take care of a stranger, and committed to pay for a hotel room and full medical care until he was recovered. You can’t do that, even in 1st century Palestine, without significant money.
In contrast, the rich young ruler was owned by his money. He asked what he, personally, needed to do beyond the Law to inherit Heaven. His money was more important to him, so he walked away unhappy.
It probably is for the typical Christian.
But a TRUE Christian does not own His money. He realizes that He is a steward of all provision God has entrusted him with. He only uses it as God directs.
Income often determines who you work with and socialize with. God desires that all classes and economic levels come to salvation through Jesus Christ. So, He uses the job He places people in to influence those on every level.
God is not opposed to riches, He is only concerned about the heart and its desires.
Where your heart is there your treasure is also. If you love money and its acquisition consumes most of your thoughts, it will hurt you. If you love God and your fellowman then money can help you support God’s work. It will bless you. It depends on your mental focus.
Interesting to choose six-figure salary. The average wage in the world is $1.90 a day. Why not pick that instead?
Earning money is not necessarily the same thing as serving money. Morally speaking, it is not what you earn but how you earn it – and in fact earning a 6-figure salary is not inherently different from earning a 5-figure salary.
Besides, religion is always selective and interpretative. I’m not sure I have met any Christians who truly took this principle seriously
The most fundamental message of Jesus was to give away what you have and follow him. To do anything other than this is really not following Jesus.
That being said if that was the minimum standard, Jesus would not have many followers so in the interest of expanding the reach of Christianity they compromised on a few things.
No, because money itself is merely a tool. Depends really on what you do with that. If a Christian thinks that money is more important than God, then that’s more than just hypocrisy. That’s also means you’re worshipping money as a new god in your life.
Prioritize your mental and physical health for a few months. Do not spend any more time at work than your allotted hours. Many people get super stressed because their working hours start exceeding 40 hours as they try to keep up with what they perceive as the “workplace normal “culture. If anything is said about it ( obviously keep a record of your attendance so you can prove that you are putting in the time they’re paying you for- log in 5 minutes early and log out a couple of minutes past your official end time- just don’t give them more than a few minutes a day). Point to your meticulous records and say something nondescript like” I have developed a serious health issue and have to take care of my body better” ( true)
Start exercising- preferably a vigorous session early morning- and a relaxing walk in the evening – Eat only whole foods- preferably homemade- don’t put junk in your body. I’m not saying you are doing these things, but if you are you are ruining your own life: Quit drinking alcohol- cut it out completely. Quit smoking/ vamping using tobacco or drugs. Lastly quit watching pornography or any other “rubbish” on your computer. Break your habits of wrapping up your entire life in the technology. Learn to meditate. Reconnect with your spiritual side. Find God again. Imagine how your “best life” looks and work towards it. Keep a journal of your life- just a few words a day is enough.
Talk to your medical professional if you find yourself getting depressed or anxious. Take medication if necessary to help your brain “re-set”. If you can afford it, take a vacation to the sea shore or the mountains (whichever you prefer) to help with the turn around.
In the meantime work at work like you love it. Allow yourself to feel how rewarding it is to complete a project before you worry about the next. Say good morning to people and mean it. Smile. Find gratitude for the paycheck if nothing else.
Give this plan about 6 months of your best efforts. If you still find yourself not happy with your work after your body and the rest of your life is in control and progressively getting better, then it’s time to admit that the job- however well paid- is not working for you (pun intended). So begin the job search but with a de-stressed body and a clearer mind – which will enable you to find an equally (or higher) paid position that suits you better.
I think unfortunately…. this is one of those situations where you will have to decide what is more important. Health or wealth. But if you really can’t bear to work for less money try and make a list of the positives that this job brings, such as security or health insurance, good holidays or similar. If you can recognize the benefits then it might become more bearable. Also look at stress management techniques and perhaps look at yourself. Are you taking on too much, are you doing more than your colleagues, is there any part that you could drop without it affecting the end result.
It’s hard to work a stressful job. The key is to compartmentalize. In other words, when you’re at work put blinders on. Don’t let anyone into your private life at this job. You don’t like it so making friends there probably isn’t a good idea. If you say one thing negative regarding your job to someone your work with may cause you more stress.
When you are angry, you take decisions you shouldn’t take.
When you are happy, you make decisions you can’t fulfill.
When you are hungry you gulp the food but not eat it properly same goes with water when you are thirsty.
When you are anxious you lose your sense over you and lose the events happening at present moment.
When you are afraid you lose your wit and lower down your confidence and ability to improve.
When you are concupiscent, you masturbate unnecessarily and run for pleasure (one of the biggest thing where youngster lose their mind and somewhere lose themselves too)
When you are greedy, you even try to cheat your parents and friends for money or for anything.
When your mind is not calm it takes you everywhere and gives you anxiety, makes you to take every single thing personally which will either make you depressed or hurt your ego.
So, when your mind is not calm you do things which should not be done and you later regret and waste rest of your time in regret.
And when your mind is calm you take decisions precisely by determining the cons & pros of your own decision.
No doubt all the things I mentioned above are characters of human mind but ultimately they are only things which makes us suffer, I observed and realized that mind tricks you every time, you never know it sometime it makes you eat ice cream, sometimes it makes you do shopping without any purpose (just because your pocket full of money) it will make you run away from the hard things and reality.
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Whenever you feel any of these things I mentioned and described above,
Just close your eyes – take deep breath hold for 2 second and release it.
Repeat it thrice and then re-think on the situation you are stuck in- find out the possibilities to overcome the difficulty level and think less about the failure from that situation.
Imagine a calm beach and breathe slowly. After few minutes or so, you should get calm enough to actually think.
Is there actually any crisis at all? Or do you just think there is one? If there is a crisis, how severe it is? Is baby crying and your partner yelling at you at the same time? Is your fridge empty and every shop that is in reasonable proximity is closed? Or the place is burning down and you need to get out fast?
First two are quite easy to deal with: Tell your partner to shut up, then fulfill the baby’s needs (food, diaper, or just love). The second case is even easier – just walk to your neighbor and borrow some food until shops reopen.
Actual crisis, like place burning down or terrorist attack in progress is harder to deal with, but then it’s even more important to keep your cool. First of all, seek an escape route that will leave you least damaged, if possible with no wounds. You must go calmly, but decidedly, thinking logically at every step.
In short, you need to cut off your emotions. It’s hard, and being a sociopath certainly helps with that task ;), but it is possible to train even on regular person.
If you can’t seek escape route, because e.g. you’re being held hostage, you need to look at what’s going on around you calmly, how many assailants there are, how are they behaving (are they methodic, emotion driven, or are they methodic but try to disguise it by faking emotions) and what they look/sound like (do they have any “uniforms” or are they in regular clothing? What is their race/ethnicity if possible to determine? What language they are communicating with?), then get that info to law enforcement if possible (e.g. you are being held hostage at the bank – most assailants left for the safe, only leaving few guys behind to keep look on the hostages and they’re either bored to death or not looking in your direction – you have a slight chance to text the info to some family member which then calls police with it, or better, a force member if you know one personally – DON’T call and cut off all sounds from the device (including vibrations – those make sounds as well), that will just get you killed as even a preoccupied not looking in your way assailants can still hear things).
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~Victor Frankl
There’s a big lie we tell ourselves during stressful times.
It keeps us feeling lost, afraid, and unloved, like we’re being picked up and carried away helplessly by a storm.
Our heads can fill with scary images, words, and stories about the cause and who is to blame for our unwanted pain.
Sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone. You’re normal. This is how humans biologically respond to stress.
So what’s the big lie?
The big lie is that we have no control over our stress response. Actually, we do. A lot of control.
I’ve struggled the hard way through my fair share of troubling times. I’ve experienced money and job issues, battled with health, and been pushed in challenging relationships.
But that’s not the worst part. The worst part is I grew up a highly sensitive person, who would internally react to almost anything that could be interpreted as negative.
Of the feelings above, I hopelessly sat at the “feel all of them” end of the scale.
That was until a particularly trying relationship caused me so much stress and anxiety that I became sick of my unconscious reactions, and vowed to do everything possible to stop it (or make it easier).
Through research and a lot of experimenting I created a practical way to calm myself down instantly anywhere, anytime, when a meditation cushion or reassuring book was out of reach.
The technique was so simple and powerful that it pulled me through a harrowing experience in that relationship, and has held me together in plenty of experiences since.
It’s easy to remember, has an instant effect on your mind body, and most importantly, is simple enough to be remembered and used when you’re going through the eye of your own stress storms.
How to Calm Yourself In Two Minutes
Take a moment right now to make yourself comfortable and try these four steps yourself:
Remember the game you played as a child when you suddenly stopped mid-motion, like you were frozen in ice? Do that now. Halt your body parts, emotions, and thought processes. Think of yourself as a cartoon character that’s been hit with a stun gun. You can even make it a little dramatic if it helps.
Focus on your index finger.
(Skip to this if you find the first step difficult). For twenty to sixty seconds, concentrate solely on the back of your index finger. Let your mind and body be consumed by it.
Bring it closer to you. Study the rivets, creases, and those tiny little fingerprint lines. If your situation is noisy, let the sounds around you merge into a single background buzz, and let it fade out of your attention.
Take a conscious breath.
Let go of your focus and check back in with your body. Take a deep, conscious breath in, then let it go through your mouth, slowly and calmly, creating a wave of relaxation that starts in your chest and floats out through your being to the surface of your skin.
Look around consciously.
As you re-integrate with your surroundings, scan the scene in front of you. Remain as indiscriminate as possible with what you focus on the way you would when waking up in the morning.
Take conscious note of the thoughts that are trying to push back into your head and observe them with an attitude of curiosity.
How do you feel?
You might now feel a little more in touch with your senses, distanced from previous thoughts, and connected with the present moment.
Most importantly, you’ll recognize that the root of your discomfort is your thoughts. Everything else, like emotions, and physical discomfort, and pain, start there.
If you’re having difficulty slowing down the mind at the beginning, try this: If you meditate regularly, spend the last minute of your session focused on the same finger, in the same way. Doing this will associate (or anchor) the feelings of clarity, relaxation, and attachment with the action.
And if you don’t meditate, it’s a great time to start! It will help with your ability to cope with stressful situations generally, and dramatically improve the effects of this technique.
What comes to our mind when we listen word “DIFFICULT”; not easy to do or understand and then a negative vibration comes from our mind?
So, these whole game depends on our THOUGHT
Let me explain:-
In a small Italian town, hundreds of years ago, a small business owner owed a large sum of money to a loan-shark. The loan-shark was a very old, unattractive looking guy that just so happened to fancy the business owner’s daughter.
He decided to offer the businessman a deal that would completely wipe out the debt he owed him. However, the catch was that we would only wipe out the debt if he could marry the businessman’s daughter.
Needless to say, this proposal was met with a look of disgust.
The loan-shark said that he would place two pebbles into a bag, one white and one black.
The daughter would then have to reach into the bag and pick out a pebble. If it was black, the debt would be wiped, but the loan-shark would then marry her. If it was white, the debt would also be wiped, but the daughter wouldn’t have to marry the loan-shark.
Standing on a pebble-strewn path in the businessman’s garden, the loan-shark bent over and picked up two pebbles.
Whilst he was picking them up, the daughter noticed that he’d picked up two black pebbles and placed them both into the bag.
He then asked the daughter to reach into the bag and pick one.
The daughter naturally had three choices as to what she could have done:
Refuse to pick a pebble from the bag.
Take both pebbles out of the bag and expose the loan-shark for cheating.
Pick a pebble from the bag fully well knowing it was black and sacrifice herself for her father’s freedom.
She drew out a pebble from the bag, and before looking at it ‘accidentally’ dropped it into the midst of the other pebbles. She said to the loan-shark;
“Oh, how clumsy of me. Never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.”
The pebble left in the bag is obviously black, and seeing as the loan-shark didn’t want to be exposed, he had to play along as if the pebble the daughter dropped was white, and clear her father’s debt.
In the same way, no situation is difficult we just think that it’s difficult while we can simplify everything by thinking positively.