- Too much judgment in the question. We never know enough to fairy/accurately judge anyone; even ourselves. There is terrible Karma for judging unfairly! So don’t go there!
Humans are human, and make mistakes. We don’t learn from our successes, just our mistakes; largely because making mistakes hurts and many of us try to understand why we screwed up; so we don’t make that mistake again!
Just consider it a human being. Think of a human as someone who can do anything you could think of. This is true for all of us. I know that many humans will say: -I would never in my life do that. But still many people think back and say: -I never in my life thought I would/could do that.
You see, most humans carry both negative and positive energy. This energy manifests in thoughts, feelings, actions and words. It is we however who choose what it’s going to be. You may be forced by others and even threatened but the truth is that you can always say no regardless. It may have dire consequences for you but you choose. Some people stand up so far that they even take death before their belief/ understanding. We’ve seen a few like this throughout time like Jesus, Gandhi, Martin Luther King etc.
So, if you were to grow up in a society where lying, stealing, deception and killing were socially accepted standards then most likely you would be a person with qualities of mistrust, fear, aggression, hate, malice etc.
Now, if you grow up on the other opposite you would learn the positive traits of life. So, a person who learns, will just understand that which they are subjected to. It’s very difficult for someone who has lived in a “hell” with all negative qualities. They may have been beaten, sexually molested, forced to do things that they didn’t want to do, fights, death threats etc.
Some just give into this and continues on this path because everything seems so hopeless. Others just break down and lock themselves up in a mental cage. These people often don’t realize that there’s always a way out from this. Fear is a major factor that all human beings deal with. It’s also intentionally used to keep humans at bay.
So, don’t think of humans as “good” or “bad”. Think of humans as equals but with free will to express in what they believe in. Just be aware in the NOW because that’s what counts. Even the worst murderer can do a heroic act when you least expect it. Even your best friend could engage in something so horrible that you couldn’t dream about it. It’s all about the NOW and the choice that we make NOW. What happened in the past has no importance more than learning from an experience. A person who robbed a bank once is NOT necessarily a robber any more. Some people learn from their mistakes meanwhile others don’t.
If a person thinks of him/herself as bad then it is a self-creation and a self-belief. I always say this here: Believe in yourself because you are someone and your life is important. How you wish to live is your own choice. Basically, I say (together with others) that we have 2 basic types: The person who gives service to others and the person who gives service to self. So, compassion and love goes from the STO meanwhile greed, hate, malice goes with the STS.
So, be careful to judge. I don’t judge people but I do observe and evaluate actions and talk.
I hope this shall help you in your quest to understand both yourself and the world around you.
Help those who truly seek guidance towards a positive life because there are many who need love on our planet. Pray for love to the humanity and to Mother Nature.
If the person is aware that their actions are bad, can they be considered bad?
I don’t consider people bad, so it’s hard for me to answer, but self-awareness is, from my point of view, a blessing. That allows us to change if we want to. Which brings another dimension to the question: What does that person feel when they perceive themselves as bad? Are they happy and proud of it? Or do they feel ashamed/sad/guilty about it and want to change their lives?
One of the reasons I rarely put tags on people is that I’m usually more interested in where they want to go then where they are now… So if that person is both aware of doing actions that are bad and genuinely want to change to become a better person, are willing to put the efforts into it and are actively walking towards that goal then, from my point of view, as long as they’re doing concrete actions to become a better person, they’re a great person. It doesn’t remove them from the good/bad dilemma, it doesn’t erase their past, they might still carry the weight of all the pain they’ve created so far, just as well as those who were hurt by their actions will carry that pain in their hearts, but I would still want their effort to be recognized in some ways.
I’ll try to explain my thought process, though I think in emotions, so it’ll be a best effort… The thing is, if bad and good exist, they would need to exist in a form of scale… From good to bad (or vice versa)… So let’s say that the person is in the wrong end of the scale and walks towards becoming good… At what point, on that purely arbitrary scale, do we consider that person to be a good person? When their actions are good? More often than not, people will hold their past against them… When they’re extremely good, then…? To me, that doesn’t make any sense and worst, it doesn’t encourage people in becoming “better”. It might very well be simple-minded of me, but I like to think that were we able to recognize the huge efforts the person makes in that transformation process earlier, and encourage it by being more supportive, the society, as a whole, would gain from it.
Uh, why not? Knock yourself out. You can also take a person who doesn’t know they are bad and consider them bad.
It doesn’t make them a bad person. Only bad for you. How you consider other people is not them, it’s you. Your personal judgment of others isn’t some horrid mark and burden you put on them, which infuses their every tissue and lineament and which they then have to bear through life, dodging torch-and-pitchfork mobs. Now. It’s a little stinky bell you string around their imaginary neck, which only you can hear the tinkling of – because it’s not around their neck. The only place it is in your head.
So you’re free to consider this one bad (for you), this one good (for you), this one terrible (for you), and this one amazing. For you. You don’t even need to tack the “for you” on there. It’s impossible for your judgment to be for anyone else.
Unless you share, of course! But if someone hears and agrees in your judgment, that’s their judgment. It still doesn’t make the person a bad person. Only bad for you two.
You really only run into difficulties where you make the mistake of thinking your consideration of a person means anything at all, except to you. Your consideration doesn’t control how the other’s friends, cronies and beloveds see or find them. That person may not be bad, for them. They may be great. But once you get in the rather psychotic habit of believing your personal judgment reflects the really real reality of things, next you start to judge others who don’t share your assessments.
Which you’re also free to do! “They like a bad person, they must be a bad person.” Knock yourself out! It’s your head. Shift the furniture around and do the décor any damn way you please. It won’t make anyone else a bad person how you think of them.
How you think of them, though, could well be a reliable guide for you. In terms of how you spend your attention, energy and company. If someone’s no good for you, why would you cultivate the association? You’re free to decide what you’ll give of yourself, and to whom. There are 7.8 billion people in the world, and not one of them is owed you.
Stick to the good ones. Good for you.