I say it’s more important than being nice to those who are significant in your life.
It’s easy to love and be nice to people we care about. It’s much harder for our ego to be kind to those we are not directly involved with, or that don’t reciprocate, or when we’re not in the mood of being nice.
It’s more important because I feel it’s a reflection of the level of sincerity and commitment one extends to the significant ones in their life.
When you are able to be kind without conditions, you can easily forgive wrongdoing and overcome fallouts with significant others. You can still go out of your way to make amends, without needing people to do something for you or be a certain way towards you. You learn to love anyway and you won’t have to lose any person because you lead with your heart, and not with your ego.
Learning to cultivate kindness towards those you are unfamiliar with, and especially the seemingly unlovable, will generate an inclusive spirit that always welcomes differences and feels authentic under all conditions. It will also serve to solidify existing relationships and make them a lot more real.
- It’s always better to be nice to people, regardless of who they are or where they fit in our personal scheme of things, than to be unpleasant. Some people, including me, work even harder to be pleasant with strangers than we do with those who are closest to us.
We don’t have to be quite as concerned about pleasantries with friends and familiars. They know who we are and what we feel about them but strangers don’t.
At the end of “Civilization”, the program’s creator and the audience’s guide to the world of art and architecture reveals his personal philosophy in life… “as a stick-in-the-mud… I believe in courtesy,” he says, defining it as “the ritual by which we avoid hurting other people’s feelings by satisfying our own egos”.
- Of the utmost importance. I recall a talk by Mr. Hooper Dunbar, former Member of the Universal House of Justice, and Supreme Administrative Body of the Baha’i Faith. One of the surprises in the spiritual worlds of God is how, there, one who was considered lowly while still on Earth, is one that other souls bow to in the spiritual realm.
Considering that none of the things of this world matters after death, that what matters is what we have made of our souls, in the words of Shoghi Effendi, Guardian of the Baha’i Faith, and that the ways of men are not the ways of God, then it is of the utmost importance that we treat a beggar with as much respect and dignity as a billionaire.
- You should always be nice to everyone. I don’t mean overly nice and chatty, but I mean not being mean and rude. Everyone has their own problems they don’t talk about and you never know what someone might be going through in life. If you say something mean or rude to someone who is standing on the edge already, you might be the last nail in their coffin. By being nice you spread good vibes and enforce life.
But if someone is being inappropriate or putting you down, you don’t need to be nice. Just be appropriate and never lower yourself to their level.