We are indeed the product of our environment, on the other hand the environment is what we ourselves build.
Thus how can the environment change us if we built the environment that influences us by the same qualities, nature we want to change?! In other words, can we “pull ourselves up by pulling out own hair”?!
We can’t change ourselves without the right environment influencing us, and we can’t build the right environment without changing ourselves! But we can draw an “external force” on us that can help. Or we could also say that we can awaken, initiate hidden, so far dormant qualities, abilities in ourselves in the right conditions.
Originally we are born with an inherently egocentric, self-serving, self-justifying, individualistic and exploitative nature which has reached its maximum, self-destructive potential in our times. As a result Humanity reached the threshold of a very realistic, imminent self-destruction which can unfold in different ways, even without wars, triggered from multiple different scenarios (plagues worsened by antibiotics overuse, mass unemployment, market/financial crash leading to socioeconomic breakdown, climate change, lack of nutrition, water, world wars…).
Our civilization is built on the service of the ego, based on excessive overconsumption, ruthless competition, success, survival at each other’s and Nature’s expense which is clearly unsustainable.
Thus there is a growing awareness, need for changing ourselves, for changing our Human relationships, the way we discuss and solve problems. When this need and our obvious inability to change ourselves, obvious inability to discuss and solve the mounting global problems that threaten our existence reaches a certain quantity and quality, the desperate helplessness, humility will draw help from Nature’s evolution.
Nature’s evolution relentlessly, in a deterministic fashion drives the whole Natural system towards a final, most optimal integration. And in this Humanity also need to take part. But contrary to other parts of the system Humanity was left with the chance to make the transition from egotistic, selfish individualism to selfless, altruistic integration freely, consciously, by our own efforts. This is why we are born different, seemingly outside of, against Nature.
Thus evolution “awaits” our conscious decision, need for change, so it could help us progress in a positive, mutually responsible, mutually complementing way above and against our original nature.
Of course it is not mysticism but empirical Natural science.
Nothing changes from evolution’s point of view, Nature is pushing the system endlessly, relentlessly in a lawful manner towards its goal.
It is us who change.
By reaching the above mentioned desperate helplessness, the need to change and the sharp, obvious inability to change at the same time, we become more sensitive, perceptible to evolution’s influence we simply ignored, didn’t feel before.
As a result of the humbling helplessness we subdue ourselves to evolution’s flow, we start to change together with the whole system, submitting to its direction in the lack of any other choice. Then as Nature’s evolution “upgrades” us with Nature’s selfless, altruistic qualities we change and as a result of the changes we can rebuild Human society to become similar to, compatible with Nature.
This process can be greatly hastened, facilitated, augmented by the right, “Integral Education”.
This is how the apparent “chicken or egg” problem is solved!
No one is owed you. No one is owed your company. You choose to whom you offer yourself. But sure, all those with whom you deal? Deal kindly. Why not? What’s it cost you? To whom does it give the advantage?
Certainly not to the other one.
To deal kindly with them may be as quick and simple as to arise, acknowledge a greeting, excuse yourself courteously and go. You don’t have to give any misuser of you any more of your time or interest to abuse. You may go. If they object to you going, well, how can they? What claim do they have on you? A thousand replies will answer.
Choose the best. You’re always free to go.
Why make yourself look bad – no, not “look bad,” be worse – than your best? For the sake of some unkind, abusive user? What can they do to you now that you know who they are? Why not be kind? “It’s more than they deserve?”
Sure it is. But what about what you deserve? Our worst which we give to those we find deserve it, is who we really are. Shall you become your worst? What, for them?
You’re kidding, right?
Surely anyone who deserves our worst isn’t worth it.
Kindness doesn’t mean giving – not giving more. It’s more in how you give all you choose to give. Kindness doesn’t even mean forgiving – though of course, there’s very little sense in carrying around someone else’s badness as your baggage, as grudge. It neither punishes nor burdens them. But even forgiveness does not mean you must give them more of yourself than you already gave away. Forgiveness just means you’ve wiped the slate clean. There is no wrong between you, anymore. They owe you nothing. Which is also what you owe them.
Kindness just means you treat others in kind – not by returning to them how they’ve treated you. By returning to them how they should have treated you. By returning to them how you treat people, not how they do. By treating them as your kind: one equal in dignity, respect and worth to yourself.
Even if, let’s say hypothetically, they may not be.
Run this one forward in your mind. If you treat them unkindly, how do you come out of it? In your view?
Yeah, pretty sure no you don’t, and you know you don’t. So I’d say, yes! Sure! By all means: in the dealings you have with them, in passing, in chance encounter – deal in kindness. Why not. It is nothing to you. It’s just how you deal with all us FOOLS. Fools for love, fools for life – we’re all fools for something, aren’t we? Like Mr. T, you pity the fool – and you deal in kindness. Except in an actual case of defending the weak against the cruel and strong – there, you deal in brutality, but it’s only because of a deep, sweet kindness you have in you for those being brutalized, right? Anyway, let’s assume so. You deal in kindness.
You don’t need to seek any more dealings than you have to, with anyone you’ve learned you don’t want to know any better than you already have. It’s just that in the dealings you have, in the crossings of paths, you are kind. Invincibly kind. You don’t have to give them what they ask for, if they ask for more of you than you want to give. Kindly decline, in that case.
You know all the ways to decline. Choose the best.
Or, if you’re moved to do so, take them up on it! If you really want to; not out of some misconceived obligation. But if you do take them up on it, remember what kind you’re dealing with. Even as you treat them as one of your own (which – of course you do, it’s gold-chased steel-keen habit with you by now!), remember who they are, which they’ve given you to know. Remember what you can trust them for. Pity, if you would; mercy, if you will – but kindness for sure.
It costs you jack nil. To cut yourself down to any less than that…costs more. Maybe a lot more.
Never give anyone any more of yourself than you’re willing to lose. No return, no repayment. Nothing ever expected back. Give stingless of you, with never regret over such free gift. You gave because you wanted to. This is the way to grow so much self you couldn’t give it all away if you tried. And you know, at that point? You might as well try. You’ll never catch up with the wild appreciation (in the sense of increase, but who knows? Probably a good bit of the other, too) of all you have to give, by that point.
It’s easy as can be. Easy as sincerity. Costs you nothing! Deal in kindness. Why not?
I mean, if you’re absolutely aces at keen, cutting repartee – I do admit to indulging a bit myself, time to time. But only in the moment of sudden crossed blades, you know – and I’ve never come away with hard feelings. So realistically, it would never arise that I’d charge in cutting and thrusting! What an ass I’d be, doing that! Bad form, woot?
Anyway, you know your best. Trust yourself to it. Be it. I suspect you have no best better than kindness, though.
I don’t think anyone really has. Short-term, long-term, any other term. Kindness is one bad mother*ucker, attitude-wise. I trust myself to it, just about exclusively, for all my in-person and phone dealings. Online, I confess I’m sometimes forced to substitute a sort of weird, courteous bombast. Tone is so hard to gauge.
There should be merit to everything, otherwise it becomes foolishness.
To an extent, “being kind to unkind people” is not wrong. Sometimes it can be better to let things slide than start a fight over one’s behavior, especially if making a fuss will hurt you more than the other person. Sometimes one might be rude just because they had bad day or something and if you behave kindly they might recognize the error of their behavior and apologize. Sometimes you let thing slide because you realize that you are not going to change the other person and it is pointless arguing with them.
That said, there is no reason to accept a continuous ashes behavior of someone. You may let things slide once or twice in hopes to calm down the situation. But if you see that being nice only makes matters worse, it is time to stop being nice and draw some hard boundaries with the offending person. After all, if you are not going to ensure your own peace of mind, nobody will do it for you.
Being on the receiving end of an abuse of kindness is difficult, but it is possible to remain kind and assertively stand up for oneself.
Maybe more difficult than that is realizing someone doesn’t appreciate the kind things you do for them. In those situations, it’s important to remember that being kind to others is something people should do with or without recognition. Be kind because it makes you who you are, not so you can receive appreciation for it. Lift up others for the sake of lifting them up. Get a copy of SAME KIND OF DIFFERENT AS ME
Well, there are many things that some can be ahead of in time. We would first think of technology but you need to understand that there are visionaries who have ideas of better social structures as well as individual development of the human.
Humans know what they have been taught. We are “programmed” from birth into a society and culture. We’re separated from each other because of race, religion, politics, geographical situation and so much more. So, just think how a Japanese and an American think of their lives. There’s quite a difference in thinking. Who is the better? You couldn’t really say that because it’s something you evaluate inside as an individual.
So, for the question, is that the same principle applies. What you cannot conceive is strange or even “crazy” for you. This is one obstacle for most of humanity. We blindly accept what we learn as truth through society in form of education and studies. We believe in the system of titles and education. They can be very limited as well as controlled. Many people who truly were geniuses like Tesla, Mozart, and Einstein to mention a few used their own intelligence to create more. Each individual is fully capable of doing this but due to your own limitations that YOU have created, you just don’t get involved. The good part is that humans could have evolved a great deal both in spiritual, social and technological part if this type of liberty would exist.
The negative part is that intelligent, free thinking person’s often pose a threat to the present establishment. They present things that would turn over things like religions, politics, and present technology and with that many corporations that deals with money. There are many examples of that and I’m going to list you a few.
Tesla is one of the more important ones. He was going to construct free energy for the world. He was stopped by the banks because of that. The only one who supported Tesla was George Westinghouse because of the AC that we now use as electricity. There’s another man today, alive who wishes to do the same, Eric Dollard. He has had a number of labs blown up because of his work. You can look him up on the Internet.
I have personal friends who have introduced cures for cancer who were effectively stopped by powerful people because it would ruin the billions that Big Parma earns on their “medicines”. Another couple of guys invented a carburetor that consumes fuel in the same way like today. This was done in the end of the 50’s. Shell Oil bought the patent and locked it up because they wanted to sell fuel instead. Another guy I knew invented an electric car back in the late 50’s that could drive cost-to-coast without recharge. It was self-generating. He contacted GM. GM told him to stop this. One morning, very early he was called by the police who told him his factory was on fire. The 2 prototypes he had were destroyed and later the insurance wouldn’t pay him out because there wasn’t enough “evidence” that it was an accident. From being a rich man with millions of dollars, he became poor. Holographic telephones have been introduced since the 70’s and you can see it in EPCOT center in Florida. They are still NOT on the market. The same was true for flat screen televisions which we now have. So, the truth is that the establishment controls what we shall have. This in turn is because of money and industry. It does cost a lot to build a production belt and it is designed to be there for some decades before a “new” product can be released.
The latest is the antigravity patent, filed by US Navy for Salvatore ….. (Can’t remember his last name now). They filed for this in one of their “unknown” scientist’s name. It’s quite controversial as it goes against much of the laws of physics that we learn in school. So, another little thing to think about as I mentioned above.
So, the ideas toward a better world is clearly controlled by our Elite. They use technology or psychology in advanced terms which normal society won’t see anything of until it can be safely introduced without losing economic and social control. It’s all in our interest to create clean nature, peace and healthy living. This advances Earth towards something much better. Humans need to use their creativity and intelligence to do this.
So, I hope this gives you some more insight of the dangers and positives from being ahead. Mostly it comes from ignorance and from selfishness. We should welcome solutions that benefit our planet and humanity.
Actually being ahead of one’s time is a major life disappointment.
Case in point: are you familiar with the concept of a deep fake? If not, a deep fake is a 3D animated version of a real person, typically used to replace a real person in video with this fake version to create a video of a real person doing something they never did. Most often a deep fake is a reference to pornography, with a celebrity’s face superimposed on the porn actress’s body.
A good 10 years before deep fakes became a thing, I patented a VFX process that automatically replaces people in filmed media with anyone else. I was trying to create Personalized Advertising, where you, your family and friends appear in the video advertising you view while watching TV.
The startup that I created to achieve this had an impossible time trying to raise financing simply because nobody believed what I was demonstrating right in front of their eyes was possible. They either thought it was fake, too expensive to take to market, or if they saw potential they also wanted to do porn, which I refused to be a part of because I could see how devastating a technology that inserts anyone into porn would be to society.
So, what happened? I hit my head against the VC, Hollywood studio, and advertising agency walls for 10 years before I was far past bankrupt and had to quit. The technology still works. But I am just sick of people and their desire for porn now, as even a few weeks ago one of the constant stream of interested investors contacted me with an interest only in doing porn. Gawd I hate our society sometimes.
I would say all good things.
I mean a lot of the time, for any big boom to happen downstream of the original innovator, there has to be an original innovator in the first place. It doesn’t mean we never would have tumbled to such tricks without them, but it could mean the boom would have come later without them. It would have to wait on a later originator.
So, somebody comes up with something nifty as hell. They’re ahead of their time. Their innovation is not widely recognized. But it is noticed by various far-flung parties, all of who go to work adapting the principle in different ways. There could be like, ten of them. All hard at work – who knows which one will achieve the later breakthrough? Being ahead of your time is basically like putting the seed out there for many other competing garners to cop and coax to bloom. Because here’s the thing:
It’s obvious the original innovator didn’t have what it takes to make their seed bloom. Or boom. Not widely. Just enough of a splash for far-flung others to note the potential, if combined with this and that. And when one breaks through huge, journalists trace the roots of the idea and come up the humble (or pissed) originator, toiling in obscurity, left behind in the success story!
Because it wasn’t a success they could make themselves. They needed help.
So…all good things!
Purely for the sake of the original innovator, I hope they patented whatever, or can demonstrate ownership enough to legally claim a stake in the boom. If not, maybe they can trade on their cachet a bit. In any case, that’s the difference between being “ahead of your time” and being “irrelevant.” When you yourself can’t turn your idea into huge breakthrough success on your own, but someone else later can…you were “ahead of your time.” Your position is at least elevated somewhat, and maybe you can turn that into something.
But if you yourself can’t turn your idea into huge breakthrough success on your own, but later nobody else does either…you get stiffed. Bupkis. Anyway, keep toiling I guess! It’s for the sake of the thing that you do it, correct?
But it would be nice to catch a piece of that breakthrough success. Well, if none ever happens, you’re never going to parlay your part into anything.
Possible bad thing? From a certain perspective?
I suppose from an envious standpoint, the “ahead of one’s time” innovator may feel like all the ducats and accolades got stolen by some coattail riders from the future. Or into the future. And feel a wistful resentment “That should have come to me.”
Fact is, when situations like this happen, it’s usually the case that the later product had real features and applications built into it that made it a superior, more appealing product. And these were material factors in the breakthrough success. The core idea alone isn’t necessarily enough. Sometimes, but not always, it takes more than one person’s vision to realize all the things that need to be included to make something really fly. Sometimes it takes that first splash to bring the attention of all the people out there who sit up and say, “Holy wow. That’s a great idea. Or…I can see how it could be.”
Concepts are conceived then evolve and develop. They are communicated by people and to be effective need people to support and promote them.
Yet humans work within the framework and constraints of the people, place and era they live in and (much as an adult adjusts the communication for a child) the human with the concept may adjust the concept for their people, area and time. The difficulty is when a concept from the past is applied today without any review and updating.
If the idea is too far ahead of its time resistance is often extreme with resulting upset and arguments, especially from those with opposing views or by those who hate change and hang on to the status quo . Then those who are willing to listen are in a small minority and there is greater chance the idea is not accepted. As a result the concept may wither and die, or is archived – possibly to receive consideration at another time.
The good thing is the idea is debated and hopefully prepares a path making it easier for acceptance at a future date.
An example is Universal basic income – Wikipedia first proposed in the late 16th century by Sir Thomas Moore and again in the 18th Century by the English radical Thomas Spence and the American revolutionary Thomas Paine. It is only now, following mechanization and the advent of computer technology, artificial intelligence, remote surveillance and robots, the idea is getting serious consideration. The 2020 pandemic has highlighted how quickly the economy can collapse if too many people lose their incomes at the same time; UBI enables capitalism to successfully continue into the future.
Happiness and wisdom aren’t related in a true sense. However, wisdom can create happiness. Wisely used information put into practice can produce happiness. However, happiness is very subjective depending on the individual. Some believe in material happiness, while others believe in inner happiness. Happiness can be either of permanent character or of temporary character.
Most people experience the temporary one. You are happy when you get to buy what you desire, when you pass your exams, when you get the job you want, when you meet a partner that you “love” so much, when your dreams come true and the list goes on and on. Most of these are desires. They create happiness for a shorter or longer period of time. When the desire leaves you or you have achieved what you wanted then you’re back to the next adventure for “happiness”.
So, how do we create permanent happiness? Well, things and beliefs are different for everyone. But, some essential things are to accept things in life as they are and rather than to take a negative side, try to understand why these things happen and if there would be a positive outcome or learning from this. So being neutral with a problem and find a solution will be one helper to find permanent happiness. It’s essential to be within yourself and to trust your heart. When your heart is opened then the true happiness can flow. Stay positive in mind and let the negative thoughts just pass by.
You will not react to things and people, in the sense of what normal people do. You won’t be disturbed and more be like an observer and aware of things. There will be serenity within you. You can accept bad feelings and just let them pass by without affecting you. This is inner happiness and serenity and it’s very different from the selfish happiness that most people experience. It flows like a sun outwards from within your heart. Just an unstoppable force. The difference between the two is desire. What you desire goes inward towards you but what you give flows outward, being the Sun.
Wisdom on the other hand will solve problems and keep you out of trouble. It can also be used to help others. But as I said before, it an be used to create happiness. If our world used the wisdom we have, it would be much better and also a lot happier. To be able to eat, to sleep somewhere, to live in peace and be respected is certainly what most people wish in their lives outside of all other personal desires.
WE can achieve all this, together as ONE.
Happiness feels like the emptiness of the soul has been filled. Often imitated but never successfully – complete happiness requires enough wisdom to know that “this” is good and an awareness of the fact that “this” is a gift. A nursing child and an old man may enjoy it especially because of the awareness of being loved.
It could be wrong to divide the rewards of wisdom into separate categories – like counting blessings for the purpose of keeping score when really, wisdom – if a person was to have any at all, would say that it is never ours but still is owned by the one who created it – God. Wisdom is all One, and the benefits from it are all One also – and show that Creation itself is all One in the hand of the Creator. Happiness, like Faith, is the gift of knowing that.