Why is it easier for us to find fault or see the truth in someone else than it is for us to see it in ourselves?

  1. Because we are outward-focused, operating largely by autopilot. How we are acting in a given moment is generally the result of past conclusions we’ve arrived at, gathered as we go. We’ll drop a way of acting if we notice it proves routinely punitive, if we can think of a better way to use instead, but otherwise we largely go on auto. Our way of response is the best way we know. Maybe the only way we can think of in most moments. In most moments, we don’t think. We’re following the course-selection and coping/thriving/defense mechanisms that have yielded every good result we ever got.

Proven, you see. We hope we’ve learned from our mistakes, because those same mechanisms also yielded every bad result we ever got. We hope we’ve pruned out the parts that caused them, or figured out how to manage and support our behaviors while avoiding the worst. Ultimately though, there’s not much inner examination or focus on improvement out there.

We’re just doing the best we can with what we’ve got. To all intents and purposes, unless the situation that confronts us is unprecedented in a way that catches our attention and forces some new reckoning, we’re on autopilot.

And outward-focused. For there are the risks, the opportunities, the chances we look for! The information we need to understand someone, or figure out some combination of factors and apply best (or only) practice. We’re looking out. That’s where everything’s coming from. Most of us, the idea of looking inward for opportunity doesn’t exactly pop.

It’s easier for us to spot a fault in another or see the truth in another than ourselves, because that’s where our attention is. Simple as that.

  • Which is probably fine! We don’t want to come around talking like one of those weird-ass new age guru types. Not a strategic option, not for anything we want.

Still, it’s surprising what a modicum of self-examination and ownership of consequence can do to ease and brighten all your consequence. Aimed intent from self to better and best self. Not as a new lifetime quest. Just step by step, taking in outcomes and taking them apart. Identify the misfit parts of what you did, and replace them with things that better fit.

Pretty cool! Every upgrade is like a new toy to kid the world with, or strengthen the way you undertake things of gravity and seriousness. Work whatever aim to more potent and chosen effect.

Most of us aren’t really looking to, but it really is surprisingly easy. A worthwhile pastime! Rewarding occupation. Especially when there’s nothing better going on.

2.

An enormous physiological emphasis is placed on us sensing outward and processing that input.

So when we are in high sensory stimulation environments/situations or we decide to focus on those present or past stipulations (memories) we can have little is any time or resource remaining to look inward.

Plus if we look inward and see things we don’t like seeing (maybe our past animal reactions or those of others), we can choose to seek more stimulations on purpose (like a drug addict seeking cocaine) to try to erase those “dark thoughts/memories”.

So there are several reasons why we can naturally or deliberately not look inward.

Plus Jung wrote about how we tend to sense an inner problem and quickly point outward at others or situations and judge/condemn “them and that” so as to not have to address our inner issues.

3.

Those who presently run society want to keep us just barely surviving in the many weak states of Fear so they pay handsomely to have us miss-informed about both who we really are and why we are here.

The universe, however, choose, against enormous odds, a) first tor Life to come into being, but then b) for Special species such as humans who would question everything!

So, you can choose to follow those who want you to stay ignorant and follow anti-life ways; or choose the pro-life ways of such things as Love.

I strongly recommend choosing Love because the universe is stronger than even the most powerful of those within humans society who just think they are all-powerful!

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