What do I do when rationalization doesn’t help anymore?

My dear readers you are welcome.

  • We are taught by society to use falsehoods and even downright lies to be just like those who head so much of our societies.

However, the universe rewards pro-life things but destroys anti-life things and processes.

This universe is nothing like it seems to be, since it is mostly ‘Pure Information’ and does not even have dimensions from Science. While we have developed Science to deal with our five physical senses, we have largely rejected the possibility of our sixth senses; but that is where our true nature and strengths are.

Our complex being appears to be made of what we think ‘matter’ would look like, but there is likely no ‘matter’ as such in this universe, just long-term-organized Energy fields which ‘look like’ what we previously thought matter would look like. Oops!

So, you are a complex being and some humans are working on better models of who we really are and how we should behave given who we really are. One useful model of who we are consists of the following ‘parts’ of the whole:

  • A physical Body made of organized Energy;
  • A human Mind which continuously interacts with the Cosmic Mind of the universe, to ‘make sense’ of our environment and selves;
  • Emotions (also referred to as our ‘heart’; and,
  • An eternal Spiritual reality often called our Soul.

So, your way out of your present reality is to start to learn a lot about who you really are and your place in the universe as a member of (likely of many) Special living species, with us calling ourselves humans.

It appears that we humans have two, sequential Destinies as humans:

First to become such Great examples of living Love that others choose to become just like us; and then:

Finally to not just do Love-focused things but Become Love Personified.

Only four humans have reached that endpoint (Zoroaster, Krishna, Buddha and Jesus, The Christ), but many others are getting closer these days of rapid evolution of Spirit.

So, your immediate task is to find Teachers (never Preachers) to help you learn better questions to ask, to become a Great example of living Love. There are many on the Web who can help you become Love-focused.

Do you think the statement “innocent until proven guilty” still applies in today’s society?

My dear reader’s you are welcome.

  1. It never apply in society and it never apply for the government either. The one that determine guilty or innocence is the state security apparatus not the judicial branch, the judicial branch is just there to rubber stamp what the state security apparatus has already determine.

My prediction of what will happen in the future and is based on the understanding that history is cyclical.

Right now I understand that we are at the dawn of a neo medieval age. Just like in the medieval age, there is a project to create the perfect moral human. In medieval times the inquisition was created to create the perfect moral human. The logic was behind the concept of pain. Physical and emotional pain was seen as the key to fight temptation and sin. That’s why the inquisition create the most brutal torture machines in history. The more pain the heretic feel the less sinful the heretic is and the better the heretic can fight temptation.

During 1,000 years the inquisition was successful (it annihilate the Cather’s with impunity). The inquisition has always existed, it is instinctive in humans to form inquisitions, in ancient times there was inquisitions and torture was use. So the medieval inquisition was an evolution of inquisitions before it and religion is not the only one that use inquisitions.

But the medieval inquisition was successful at creating a monolith of European society. Herd immunity was reinforced and through that herd immunity a lot of corruption happen. The corruption inside the Catholic Church was the reason Protestantism was created. Eventually this led to the 30 year war.

The current theory use by the government is that herd immunity will make humans behave morally, but is this same herd immunity that protect the corruption in medieval times and create Protestantism as a reaction to this. Historically humans has committed atrocities in the name of the tribe and with the protection of the tribe.

Base on this historical lessons. If the current eugenics project is successful at promoting a human being with a strong herd instinct and a new neo medieval and neo feudalism social order is created out of this project. This project will be successful within centuries, but it will eventually lead to corruption like in medieval times, causing a split, and creating an event like the 30 year war.

The only way to create a human being with a neuroethology as healthy as possible, as nature allows, is to carry out a eugenics project where the neuroethology of every human being born is catalog and only those with a healthy neuroethology are allow to procreate. And herd immunity cannot and should not be used as justification for the neuroethology of that human being not to be catalog and classify.

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No. It never did apply in “society.” The only thing it means is that the government must treat a criminal defendant as they would treat any other innocent person until or unless a court with criminal jurisdiction declares them to be guilty.

At all other times, when the question of whether or not a person has committed a crime or other bad act requires the person making the judgment to weigh the evidence pointing at the judged person to balance the amount of evidence against the consequences of getting it wrong, with due consideration to whether or not it is any of your business.

For instance, an interesting looking fellow asks you out on a date. Upon seeing this conversation happen, your girlfriend reports to you that she went out with him and he raped her. She says that she did not report it to the police because she didn’t think he would ever be convicted since she went with him voluntarily. Several things are clear: a) you’re not sticking your nose in where it does not belong; b) you must decide whether you trust your girlfriend and whether you think you know him well enough to trust him; and c) the consequences of getting it wrong are life threatening.
You are not required to presume that he is innocent.

Example 2: You are the manager of a day care center. A middle aged man applies for a job and when you call his references, one of them reports “I’m not supposed to tell you this, but he was let go after several of the children complained of improper touching.” You call two other references and both of them put you on hold and then come back and both say this exact thing: “Mr. Smith worked here for [each has a different number] ___ months. His termination was not voluntary.” Pressed for more details, both tell you that this statement is all that they allowed to say. a) It literally is “your business.” b) There is certainly enough evidence for you to act. c) The consequences of getting it wrong may be devastating. No presumption of innocence applies.

Example 3: Candidate A is running for governor of your state. He has been accused publicly by 24 women of various sexual assaults, including rape. They has made very large financial settlements with at least two women. He says that they are all lying and promises to sue them for libel, but three years have passed without any suit being filed. It is certainly your business to decide if he is honest and/or whether he treats women in a way that you want you governor to treat them and in a way that you will need to explain to your boys if he becomes their governor. a) It is your duty to decide whether or not he gets your vote. b) You must weigh the evidence on your own. c) You must decide what you think are the consequences if you get it wrong.
No presumption of innocence applies.

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Unfortunately no, the table has turned to guilty until proven innocent and that “prove you’re innocent” is becoming harder and harder to do nowadays.

Everyone, and everywhere, from the police to the judge, believes a person is lying no matter what, and you’re guilty as charged. Maybe not the crime you’re charged with, but you definitely did something you should have been caught for.

Courts believe children over their parents — which makes it hard because you have a child who is mad at one parent and points a finger for no reason (often with the help of the other parent who is already upset at the first parent) — Wham! You have a false case of child abuse and neglect.

The whole @me-too movement — some of those men were guilty as charged, but what about the men who were charged falsely by a woman scorned?

Save your negative comments, people — I’m being real here! If you don’t like my answer, do not read it!! Pull up your big-people underwear and face the truth that this happens in life!!

More innocent people are taking plea deals to avoid longer prison times on things they did not do. Read the statistics in Psychology Today if you wish to dispute my claim.

In today’s society it’s not “innocent until proven guilty”, it’s “guilty until you die” because even after proof comes out you’re innocent, people look at you as a criminal.

This nation needs healing. The criminal justice system needs reform.

  • Guilty’ is a judgment call that humans always pay dearly for; since we never know enough to fairly judge another and unfairly judging (even ourselves) has awful Karma.

So we develop societal processes to determine if a given person should pay now for their choices; even though they will, at end of this life, have to deal with Cosmic Evaluations which few of us ever think enough about!

What good does it do a person to be more empathetic? In what ways might this improve one’s health and well-being?

Dear reader I welcome you all.

  1. Everything in this universe is fully connected to everything else.

Every person on planet Earth is connected to every other bit of life on the planet!

So, when you show empathy to others, in a very real way you are also showing it to yourself.

Humans became a powerful, even great species by learning how to cooperate in ever larger groups, finally Groups of Groups!

Those who choose to compete end up being destroyed by the universe itself (competition is anti-life and the universe destroys things anti-life, but supports pro-life activities and persons); but it sometimes ‘takes too long’ from our perspectives!

Even from a selfish perspective, having empathy for another is a good choice!

  • A major component of high levels of emotional wellness is having positive and meaningful personal relationships. … In short, having a healthy sense of empathy results in better relationships, which results in better overall emotional health.”

You can’t really have a healthy relationship without empathy… you need to FEEL the other person… if you are cut off… there is no relationship… that is why narcissist and the like don’t have real relationships…they are manipulation ships… disordered relationships… even if they “look good” on the surface, it is fake. They lack empathy… no real connection, and it turns into a toxic relationship usually.

Better overall emotional health means… less stress… thus… better physical health as stress can do horrible things to a person… take it from a guy with PTSD….

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Empathy, from the Greek ‘empatheia’ meaning ‘feeling into’, is when others know you have a sense of what they are feeling through actively listening to what they are telling you.

Sympathy is when we understand, on an intellectual level, the suffering of others without feeling what they feel. It is one step removed.

Compassion is when we use our empathy to take action. We don’t just sense their feelings we act upon them in a helpful way. It is one step on from empathy.

Typically to be empathetic we need a good understanding of ourselves and our own emotions. This understanding of our own emotions and that of others can improve our health and wellbeing in several ways. Here are a few examples:

  • Being more understanding of others can help us build stronger relationships and support. The strength of our support networks is often believed to be one of the most important factors in our wellbeing.
  • Taking empathy one step forward to compassion has been shown to be good for us too. The act of helping others is good for our own wellbeing. Compassion is deeply rooted in human nature and has a biological basis in the brain and body. An *article produced by Kanov, Pawley, and Walsh reflects research showing that suffering is a ‘pervasive, though often invisible aspect of organizational life’ and that compassion is a ‘healing force that is indispensable in organizations’. It goes on to reflect the ‘psychological, physiological, relational and job performance benefits (for sufferers, compassion providers, and third parties who witness or learn about the compassion) and can thus mitigate the hundreds of billions of dollars in annual organizational losses associated with suffering.’
  • In a group environment, where getting along with others is key to success, empathy may also help us earn more money and therefore provide us with access to better experiences that help our health and wellbeing.
  • An ‘empathy’, or affinity with nature has also been shown to be beneficial for our health. For example, in Japan, **research has shown that people who spend more time in nature through the practice of ‘Forest bathing’, or Shinrin-yoku, benefit from better nervous system function, heart condition and reduced bowel disorders than those who don’t. Other research in this field suggests improvements to stress recovery effects in the autonomic nervous system and increased immune function.

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When empathy is talked about it’s often in the context of kindness. Kindness is very beneficial. When insight and understanding someone else’s person and emotions is used in a way that is kind – it’s healthy for the whole person.

It releases dopamine and prevents depression. It fosters strong relationships in the home, community and workplace. This has been proven to be good for everyone! Everyone’s health improves – look at Okinawa? Yes there are other factors at play but to my mind it is a perfect example.

I have seen people who understand others and what makes them tick and have used this skill to be hurtful, selfish and deceitful. Empathy is great when motivated by kindness. I personally feel the ability to empathize is neutral and the person using the ability is what gives it a moral value.

Empathy can help people succeed in business. It’s useful for politicians and doctors and psychologists and athletes. It’s a great quality in a veterinarian.

Empathy helps people maintain relationships and avoid emotional turmoil. It can also help a person realize the motivations of their “friend” do not line up with who their pretending to be. Empathy is like infrared goggles- a different way of viewing information.

Empathy can help someone be a great lover. They seem to sense what their partner likes and dislikes and can anticipate and extrapolate upon what they observe. This is a great talent for genuine lovers and malicious seduces alike.

Some of the worst people in history were able to identify the thoughts and feelings and generally the tone of other people or even societies as a whole? They had an emotional intelligence that they chose to devote to evil actions and manipulations.

Then we have Saint Mary and if you look at her life’s work you cannot help but see her empathy.

Without empathy people feel alone but with empathy they can have a sense of unity with those they ally with. Their friends and family and to a degree their communities. Empathy helps people feel connected.

People with empathy can often be very forgiving. They understand why their friend hurt their feelings and get a sense of how genuine their apology is. I think of empathy as a slice if the emotional intelligence pie. It’s not everything and it’s also not worthless at all – it’s very important.

Empathy is amoral. Whether it is beneficial to anyone is then in my opinion based upon the moral decisions made by the person gifted with empathy.

Many times I have seen a bully know just what to say and how to say it for maximum social and emotional carnage. We don’t consider this empathy and maybe in its organic context it’s not exactly but in my mind it is the other side if the empathy coin.

Kindness is healing and beneficial and love is grand – when a heart that means well is gifted with keen insight into the social, mental. Physical and emotional state of those around them this is a good thing for everyone.

This helps communities come together in a crisis. Go fund me depends upon generosity or empathy. I prefer empathetic medical professionals to cold emotionless robots. Empathy can help people solve problems and get to the root of an issue. Empathy allows for graciousness and forgiveness. We could use more of that in this world.

Generally empathy is good and maybe there is another word for empathy evil twin but the marriage of empathy and kindness is very good for inflammation, stress, bouncing back from defeats, mental wellbeing, emotional stability…

Here’s an example.

A cashier at the local health food store was having a rough go if it as it was her first day. I was toward the end of her long line and when it was my turn she apologized and I said, “Hey, I was a cashier once. I’m not in a hurry and I would be happy for you to relax and just take your time.”

She laughed and declared I should hold a patience conference or something. She was only half joking. I could tell she was happy to be treated as a human being and not an appliance or convenience. That was at the moment less than convenient.

Because I didn’t get angry my blood pressure didn’t go up. My body didn’t shift into fight or flight. I enjoyed seeing this cashier from then on because we had report. Much better than oh, it’s her again.

Empathy has helped me to notice. To notice when someone is playing with fire. To know when I am being lied to. To forgive and heal and let go. To reconcile. And also to know it’s time to let go.

Empathy informs all my decisions but its only one of my tools and not the whole enchilada