Why do ‘normal’ people intentionally hurt others?

Unfortunately we all do this: So-called neurotypical people all manifest transient dissocial behaviors on occasion. One of my former DevPsych professors used to call it Chronic Human Imperfection.

What does this imply for normal people? Frankly, we all get mad, hurt or upset–and may react before thinking. The difference is we typically experience regret and remorse—whereas individuals diagnosed with, for example, NPD or ASPD, often feel nothing of the sort.

Many factors can lead to provocation and disharmony; some may be trivial, while others may be related to Social Injustice and Racial Conflict. Increasingly, as well, many of us are exposed to the daily echo chamber of social media. In the course of only a few minutes online, for example, we may experience various forms of toxic exposure to negatively-imbued and aggression-fueled commentary. Very few individuals can maintain a sense of equanimity if they perceive they’re being attacked.

Perhaps the main reason people hurt each other–and probably the most typical–cause of normal people hurting one another is in social contexts which may generate intense relational conflict. Across the board, sexual jealousy is statistically prominent.

Overall, What Causes This? Most of us are fairly sensitive to perceived threats to our own self-esteem or social status. But evolutionary biology and tribalism have also sensitized us attacks on to a family or identified groups.

Other factors certainly involve neurobiology: the influence of our sympathetic nervous system is a very powerful, well integrated psychophysiological response mechanism–and once under its sway it can be difficult for all of us to control.

  • Generally, they don’t as a rule, but it will happen at some point in their life.
    Sometimes to get attention, to create a fight where they may well make up, or to push away a person that they don’t like.
    More often, it’s because someone did something to them, (or they were lied to) and they got angry.
    Normal people have a very limited repertoire reasons for being mean. You have to do something to them, usually.

How can we understand the infinite when the majority of us look to the facts of the finite to give us what we consider to be reasonable facts?

Maybe I’m dense, slow and shallow* but what’s so hard to understand about the infinite?

We can’t understand the specific content of the infinite.

Sure, of course we can’t. What is it, for one thing? We haven’t a 0.0000001nth of an idea what infinity’s content is. Add as many zeroes in there as you feel like holding down the zero key for, by the way. We have a beyond infinitesimal understanding of what it is that is, in and all through infinity.

But the infinite itself?

It’s a snap to map. Endless extent in all directions, is that so hard to conceptualize? You figure probably a lot of it’s more or less super symmetric, corresponding to the kinds of physics we know. But you also figure there is plenty of room for something else. Out past a certain point in any direction, you’d expect to reach the leading edge of the big bang’s ongoing still-in-progress explosion (or I still would; theories differ), still infinitely-out folding in omnidirectional light speed splay and array. Past that?

Would be more infinity. Possibly of alien character, but not hard to compass in scope.

It just keeps going on in scope.

The bottom line is, content is incidental. Local physics (if any different to our local physics) is incidental. Incidental to the infinite. Whatever it may be, even the dimensional texture or novel spatial curvature, even time running sideways, strange things operating harmoniously yet haywire to what we’re used to – is incidental.

It is not involved in the infinite. Pure incidence.

The infinite itself is pure and sheer, thrilling and quite austere, when you think about it. It could contain anything, and mean almost anything.

The finite right in front of us, though! That’s where we have to come to grips with detail, detail, detail. Comprehend in sum, understand in relation. You can’t seriously be saying the challenge in understanding the infinite is not being able to reach to distant detail? Lack of access to what frustrates our ability to understand even the mere, here finite? Yet you’ll note even there: the finite, we understand readily.

It’s only its contents that can sometimes frustrate.

Well, everybody knows we can’t know the contents of the infinite. That would be a spurious objection, and I do not believe it can be the root of yours. Yet if that’s not your point, then what is?

The infinite itself is straightforward forever in all directions, give or take as much curvature, tear, loophole or gravity whorl as occurs or fits – itself a breeze to understand or imagine. Infinity is simplicity without limit, conceptually. More straight (plus every other line or arc) and more forward (plus every other direction) than anything else is, or ever was.

What’s the obstacle in infinity?

An inch is a thousand miles, to the power of elebenty jajillion kajillion lajillion and keep pulling back, zooming out. There’s no limit to that. All this picture’s missing is incident and detail, but…incident and detail are not hard to understand, or imagine as different. We don’t know what specifics exist in infinity’s contents, but detail and incident are irrelevant to understanding infinity.

That kind of stuff happens all the time, right here. Anyway.

It’s not like understanding the infinite adds anything to what we’ve got right here to understand.


We tend to look to the easily relatable somewhat logical and made finitely useful concepts and not to delimit infinity into actually possible infinity/s – infinities that can be dealt with as they may actually be what we mean by such a thing in reality. Infinity is potentially applicable concept in reality until known bounds in reality limit that or something else is shown to possibly be the case.

Apparently the universe is possibly infinite in its bounds. The abstract concept infinity as a number itself is useful in mathematics in expressions that represent a value as it approaches infinity so that we can use Calculus as a tool – we have the language and basis in principles to manipulate numbers thus. Numbers of many numbers types can go on infinitely. Theoretically they can get smaller to infinity. But can that happen practically for particles as the smallest unit possible between them is given as Planck lengths – in units so small that nothing smaller can even theoretically be measured. We experience most things in reality as well in sets with a finite number of elements.

God is said to be infinite in nature – timeless even – as he has no beginning or end. Time on the other hand is not infinite and in and of itself does not really exist. So God and the universe are what we might expect could be infinite in and of themselves except for how infinity is used in mathematics -theoretically with associated practical limits. What about alternate universes in quantum physics? And infinite variations of possible selves as interpretations of possible nature of reality – this is much more conjecture.

What s bigger God or the infinite universe – unless both are one as in Hindi religion. Problem is even their conception of time in giant cycles is eventually finite as it relates to even their understanding of things so the finite explains the ultimately infinite.

Pi is infinite but the actually used value is set to just so many places of decimal as doing that makes the value useful. Is it useful to understand how having a definitive notion of GOD interferes with his actual nature in reality or our understanding thereof? Some religions limit what can be said of God for this reason. We can work with infinity as a theoretical value used in numeric tool or as a descriptive conceptual value approximating possible reality – multiple cycles or copies or repetitions or divisions or operations or potentially limitless states of being – to a capture point with expressible bounds. Infinite becomes just really great and that ends that.

The need to express the infinite in workable fashions or methodologies exists. Art mimics infinity in seemingly unending perspective drawings or paintings. Math even allows work in infinite numerical dimensions but reality has a finite number of spatial dimensions. Both sets of facts on dimensions are used to understand the real. Art speaks to the made possible by illusionary means in reality as infinity. Most people desire not to know too much of either as their lives depend more on set values and are more often limited to their usual sets of things, people places and events.

Why do we ignore the truth for temporary happiness?

  • Society ensures that we are not properly taught the Cosmic Truths about how to live a good Love-focused life; so that others find us easier to control.

So we follow societal falsehoods which has us avoid finding out Truth and just accept the falsehoods and lies taught as societal truths!

We are not even properly taught that a series of short-term choices doesn’t ever lead to long-term happiness! We are purposefully taught falsehoods!

This happens when you don’t love yourself.

You think that if you let that fake or temporary happiness go, you won’t find it somewhere else. And this could be the result of:

  • A continuous programming by a parent that you are not good enough, other kids/men or women are better than you, you’re lucky for having this or getting that and you didn’t get it because you deserve it. This childhood programming turns around and around like a CD in your head and you continue saying all that to yourself. You feel that anything given to you, said to you, is too much for you.
  • A continuous deception in love, over and over again, till one day you start building a strong conviction that you are not good enough in love. You accept fake love or happiness.
  • You are disconnected from yourself and you are not able to be realistic or to know our your self’s worth. You don’t know what you want exactly in life and what are the things that you call “happiness” what can make you really and completely happy. You just don’t know, so you catch temporary happiness because you feel you can’t get more.
  • Being attached to the seeking for happiness itself makes you lose your track. Just let things go like, don’t force anything.
  • Find your true happiness inside you don’t wait for others to give it to you. Your inner happiness is as eternal as your soul while external happiness ends when the one who gave it to you leaves.
  • Because a lot of times the truth causes us to change or make a decision we don’t want to, such as if we know our partner isn’t who we want to spend forever with but we don’t want to face it because that means we would have to leave the relationship, which is scary and would cause pain to both parties.

It seems easier to ignore our problems because we don’t have to face them or adjust our life and behaviors when things don’t change, however, deep down we are suffering because we ultimately know the truth.

In short, we ignore the truth out of fear and comfort.