Can’t we be good people without supporting things we don’t believe in, in our society today?

To my own personal understanding. I have few explanations:

  • The answer is yes. But people are not perfect in everything, according to our own measure.

However, as beauty is in the eye of the beholder then society has made it that ‘If you don’t like and believe in what I like and believe in, then you are not a good person”

This has been growing in society for the last few decades. ITs basically intolerance, intolerance of some one else’s point of view and the intolerance to hear it.

Intolerance of differences of opinion. We know that some great people of the past were not ‘snow white’ but they were still great people in some other capacity but not ALL capacities.

Unfortunately, somewhere along the way (and I blame popularism and films and tv and the media including news transmission), anyone that is pulled up for one thing is immediately scapegoated and made to look evil and the worst of characters. The media, need to sell copy, so to do so they have to sensationalise and since the general population likes nothing better than to have someone to collectively hate and moan about, this is what the medial does.

There is no balanced view or benefit of the doubt, no margin of error or exceptional circumstances, the person is wrong, evil and black to the heart – no matter what.

Society has taken this and pushed it to its limit by making it that anyone that does agree with me is wrong and wrong in everything, they should not even be allowed to be heard. This is very dangerous to society. This intolerance.

Once this intolerance gets to the top then we end up with curbs on the freedom of speech and limits on what is allowed to be said.

An example. The wonderful old man, major Tom got lambasted in social media(Im not sure what was said but for the purposes of this example I’m assuming that it was just the usual thing like ‘Well he was a murderer in the war and they are glad he is dead’ rather than something that DOES go to far and says that ‘He should be dead.’) but that post about the sweet old man has upset people. Now I’m sure you agree that people that post nasty horrible comments should be stopped and banned, pulled up in court etc.

I was one of those initially decrying the bad mouthing of Major Tom, but then I though about it to the next level. YES its horrible and nasty and should probably be taken down but to be brought up on charges? That is encroaching on freedom of speech.

Why? because if you turn it around and make the government have the part of Major Tom then it suddenly becomes sinister. It means that you have just lost the right to criticize the government! Its not a huge step.

The things that people don’t like are silenced and the intolerance grows and the government helps by strengthening the laws, till they go one step too far and like Twitter they get to silence anyone for anything they don’t like, anything that dos ot agree with their view on anything, even legitimate criticism.

Far better to have the freedom and for right minded people to DROWN out the pathetic morons that troll. Doing it this way keeps our rights to criticize and also allows public opinion to keep others in check by overwhelming responses. And we learn why are the trolls out in the open where the right minded can laugh at them.

If we weren’t allowed the freedom of speech then we would have such laws as ‘disturbing the tranquillity’ or other laws that allow those in power to take away our right to express ourselves while saying its for our own good.

So yes, we can be ok without agreeing with everything but its the listener that makes the choice. Hopefully you have a listener that knows how to balance their opinion of you rather than a censorship junky.

Can’t we be good people without supporting things we don’t believe in, in our society today?

Absolutely.

  • Yes of course. Supporting something that one doesn’t believe in makes one a hypocrite and that’s therefore definitely not something good and honest people ever do.

I don’t think people should “hook up” but society says it’s ok. I don’t think we should over sexualize people, yet it’s everywhere you look. I don’t think you should lie, but watch the news, politics or social media and it’s full of 1/2 truths and outright lies.

I want to believe that people are good. It’s a natural instinct. But society pushes too much immorality and passes it off as ok. Greed, power, sexual perversion, using people, exploiting people and insulting people are everyday examples if what we consider entertainment. It’s the news, the movies, advertising, social media, etc.

Baby mamas. Baby daddies. Good grief. You have brought a life into this world. You are a mother. You are a father. Grow up.

It amazes me what is socially acceptable today. Nobody bats an eye and I’m over hear like “Really???” SMH

So don’t support what society is cramming down our throats as normal & you will absolutely be a good person.

  • It’s been said “Perfect is the enemy of the good”. If you are looking for the “perfect’ you are never going to find it. Look for the “good” and support that.

Think of it this way, must someone agree with you 100% ( the perfect) to be your friend?
The problem with society is that it is a self-regulating entity. When someone tries to go against the grain or thinks differently, someone else is going to call you out on that and try to reel you back in. Some people can’t handle it including family. Through media, papers, professionals, friends and family society wants conformity. That is why things rarely change. It is up to each individual to change but the buck is always passed to someone else. The politicians will say:

Give us more of your freedoms and we will change things for the better. You have to sacrifice one thing for another.

They don’t want change. They want people to live in ignorance, poverty and easily manipulated. No one disaster is ever wasted. It is an opportunity to implement change but not for the better.

I am not implying to think less of society but to think for oneself and examine things as they are. Not as they appear to be.

Most people go with the flow and wear a mask of some form not to be hassled by the world. Today’s society standards by the way are very low and superficial. That ought not be a measure of standard but measure of decay and decline.

Others want to be social warriors. They want to change everything else except themselves

  • Everything in this universe was given a form of Free Will; but those who choose a Fear-based mode of competition want us to remain so Fear-based that we are easy to control.

You will have to ignore a lot of nonsense which is presented to you; but our Destiny is to Become Love Personified, not to tremble in the many, weak states of Fear!

You don’t have to believe Fear-based nonsense and do have a Destiny to Become Love.

Choose to be a foolish follower or to become Love-focused instead!

Many humans are choosing to be fools and to follow Fear. You don’t have to choose to be a Fool!

How can someone live without empathy?

I have some few explanations:

  • If we live without ‘empathy’ we can expect a life where little empathy comes our way. However, being human, we all make mistakes, or have bad things come our way and to have any Joy in our lives having others show us empathy will often make things better! LoL!

Of course, if you believe that you are already perfect, you would think that you will need help and comfort; after all you are already perfect.

I have yet to meet such a perfect human.
If you know of one, please tell me who that is (complete with contact details!

Here we go on:

a. How can someone suffer through life without feeling empathy?
as John Bruss says below, many people with narcissism – or its big brother, sociopathic personality – do it sometimes as a seemingly successful lifestyle (“clawing their way to the top”, making lots of money). There are costs to any lifestyle and there are costs to this, but it works for some people with some kinds of backgrounds. A recent U.S. President is presumably a case in point.
b. Can someone practically get through life without empathy?
Arguably all humans need to at least feign empathy in some situations in order to avoid being eschewed by all social groups. Narcissistic/antisocial people are dangerous and even the most hardened sociopath looks for others who will “protect my back”. On the other end of the spectrum, most humans do feel empathy and cherish it as an important foundation for meaningful life.
c. What are the mechanics of being a human being without empathy?
Fundamentally we humans are social creatures and depend upon social relationships. So empathy is inherent to one extent or another. However, we are also predators (make weapons, eat meat, etc). This is “in us” just as much as our inclination to social groupings. Arguably, it is childhood experiences that shift the balance one way or another. Where adverse childhood experiences result in the message “you can’t trust or depend upon other humans” then empathy, conscience, and connection fade, and self-interest, deception, and exploitation rise.

  • How does someone live without hearing, or vision? When you lack a capability, especially when you lack it from birth, you will learn to compensate for it. People that are low in emotional empathy or completely lack it, compensate for it by developing what is called secondary, cognitive or sometimes cerebral empathy:

They do not sense other peoples emotions, but they abstract the emotions other people are experiencing by their behavior and unconscious messages they are sending.

Here we go on:

There are two kind of persons that do empath.

a. Those who love themselves, trust themselves, appreciate themselves so they have the right self value and self esteem and then, only then, can empath with others that need help.
b. Those that are anxious to be ‘needed’ by others because they neither love themselves, nor trust themselves, nor appreciate themselves and want other to ‘love’ them because the empath with the others. Fake love and fake empath.
But the real question would be: Why you are claiming that people do not empath?

Most probably, you are of the second type and want others to do what you do not do for yourself: love you!

In place of wandering why people do not empath… just begin to love yourself, trust yourself, appreciate yourself and then, only then, you would be able to empath with others. Be what you want others to be!

Why ignorance can be fix, but not stupidity?

Let us look at the few explanations…How ignorance can be fix, but not stupidity.

  • Ignorance is a) a lack of knowledge or b) an active rejection of gaining knowledge; only the first version can be corrected.

Stupidity is the inability to learn, so the passive rejection of new knowledge. As long as that state is preserved, they will remain incapable of learning and growing,

In this universe, everything changes; those who refuse to add new knowledge will be bypassed by life.

However, when the pain gets bad enough, some humans may finally agree to ‘learn how to learn’ and there is Hope!

  • Ignorance by definition is … well let’s make sure we get this right.

Ignorance

-The condition of being uneducated, unaware, or uninformed.
-The state of being ignorant; want of knowledge in general, or concerning some particular matter; the condition of not being cognizant, informed, or aware.
-The condition of being ignorant; the lack of knowledge in general, or in relation to a particular subject; the state of being uneducated or uninformed.
Note the theme there is lacking knowledge. You can fix that by getting rid of the lack of knowledge via education (formal learning) and experience (informal learning).

Being stupid:

stupid

Slow to learn or understand; obtuse.
Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes.
Marked by a lack of intelligence or care; foolish or careless.
Is either an unfortunately dealt hand in life or willful choice.

Let’s focus on the first condition, being born … lets go with disadvantaged. Some humans just aren’t ever going to be ‘smart’. I’ll argue this is a small number of people, let’s say fewer than 10% of us are born with low watt bulbs. However, it is a thing. We shouldn’t attack these people, they are people, but it needs to be understood that some folks are just going to be slow. edit I do wonder if for these folks micro-dosing therapy might improve their condition. Micro-dosing psilocybin appears to improve neural plasticity and grow new neurons. Is it possible we could improve cognition not just for the low end, but across the boarb?

The second group of ‘stupid people’ are a result of their own poor decisions or a significant lack of resources. Inner cities, white ghettos, low castes etc. Among this group are potential geniuses however they lack the ability to gain proper education. Again, these unfortunate shouldn’t be attacked as they’re just unfortunate.

The third group … the willful idiots … should be mocked endlessly. They posses the means and ability to be ‘smart’ but choose to be stupid.

  • I’ll substitute the word foolish for stupid.

We are all ignorant of so so much, and our lack of wisdom makes us think, talk and behave foolishly, quite often.

We cannot (do not) know the future (not even the past very perfectly) and we cannot predict all the potential outcomes of our own behaviors/actions.

So we are all left with the dilemma of realizing we will always be ignorant and foolish in some (often many) ways.

Therefore we cannot really fix ignorance (we only naively think we can) and we all remain foolish quite often (pretending we are not ignorant is a good example of our foolishness).

  • Ignorance is an attitude problem that can be be changed with education because the individual is intelligent.

Stupidity is in bred, no intelligence, so is a permanent feature that no attempt at education can change.

Example. You can train a ferret to catch rabbits because it is intelligent.

You can’t train a rabbit to catch ferrets, because it lacks the intelligence to learn the task.

Just take a look at the trump supporters, they are excellent examples of the stupidity side of this equation.

Because in ignorance, you know that you are an idiot but out of pride and delusion you choose to ignore it. This can be easily fixed with some introspection and guidance.

But in stupidity, you don’t even know or realise that you are the idiot, so essentially, in your eyes, there is nothing wrong with you, so ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”.

Can you complete the sentence, “Revenge is..”?

Let us take a look of few explanations of Revenge

  • Revenge is a transparent labyrinth.
    Even though it’s self-explanatory, I will add some ideas:
    it’s easy to get lost
    it’s easy to remain there because there is no exit in sight, and there isn’t even a guarantee that there is an exit
    it’s hard to properly dimension retribution, as it is hard to actually know the size of a labyrinth
    at any point in time your path will be determined by ideas/forces that only exist inside you and that form the walls of your confinement
    while exacting revenge, it’s easy to forget how you got there in the first place, and this leads to a much darker/denser dwelling in the Self, because revenge stops being retribution and it becomes an end in itself
    since you can’t see the walls and you can’t discern any pattern, then revenge stops being a map and becomes one with the territory, eroding any awareness you had of the need for revenge and installing in you a permanent hunger, even if this remains inconspicuous in the background of your mental life
  • Revenge is Personal Street Justice.

Justice itself is righting the wrongs… not all wrongs can be righted, sometimes wanting justice is wanting the impossible.

When we bring a murderer “to justice” … there is no righting of wrongs, it doesn’t bring anyone back. What are we really after at this point, why do we want to bring a murderer “to justice”?

Revenge cannot right the wrongs, but it can prevent more wrongs. 2 wrongs doesn’t make a right. But it does prevent the wrong-doer of the first wrong from doing more wrongs when the second wrong is death to the first wrong-doer.

The problem with Revenge is it’s a one sided judgement and easily abused. Yes, there is such a thing as just revenge, but what do you think has been historically more common when someone is out for revenge?

I leave you with a speech that advocates Injust Revenge…

Revenge is like poisoning yourself and expecting the other person to die!

Not everyone does this consciously, but many do such things while living in ignorance of who things really work.

In this generous universe, more comes back to you than what you send out. Doing anti-life things results in your life becoming primarily anti-life; to the point where you cannot survive. And you did it to yourself! Oops!

Maybe not the most brilliant move you could ever do!

  • Okay, humor aside. Revenge only creates more angry people with more desire for revenge. This is true Christian or not.

The real answer, being a Christian: “…mine sayeth the Lord.”

That is very hard for us as humans when we have been wronged. There are many times in history where people have changed and made right what was wronged by them in the past. Taking revenge often has consequences that make reconciliations impossible or very difficult.

  • Revenge is….only revenge if they know that it was you that did it.

Revenge is….a dish best served cold”

Revenge is… your next bad decision in a succession of progressively worse cause and effect actions and reactions.

Revenge is… soaring to the heights before the out of control spiral that plummets to the earth.

Revenge is….the only option.

Revenge is….

ok this one doesn’t start with Revenge is.

But this is the one I truly believe is correct.

Success will be the best revenge.

  • Useless and bad for you.
    If you feel the need to get back to somebody because something they said or did hurt you, the problem is yours.

We are the only ones responsible for that feeling, since nobody can do you harm if you don’t let them.

So wanting revenge is a way to admit that you let other people control you with their actions or words, because they are able to trigger anger and rage inside of you and then you’re letting that emotions take over your thoughts.

Revenge makes you weaker and not in control of your own life.

The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury

  • Marcus Aurelius.

The best thing you can do whenever something happens to you that triggers that feeling is acknowledge that nobody or nothing outside of you can hurt you if you don’t want to be hurt.

And when you treat the other person the right way, regardless of what they did or said to you, you are the stronger one, you grow as a person and become a better version of yourself.

And the most important thing is you feel better, you don’t lose your inner peace and the other person is the one that is left with the bad feelings and anger.

So, be the better person, do the right thing.

  • Wasted energy and time while what you must be trying to do is live for yourself, introspecting “Am I really happy ?”, “Is this really important” , “Isn’t it making me stressed?” . You, my darling, have limited time.

Instead of, wasting time thinking about others, you must have a meaning in life and focus on achieving it.

Cut that person off from your life. Leave what happened in the past. Trying in anger to take revenge from somebody is taking a good portion of your life and peace of your mind.

Please, for God’s sake, if you have finances, family and health; have a goal and positively work towards it.

Can complete the sentence, “Revenge is..”?